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mountmitchell
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Joined: Sat Nov 05, 2022 3:59 pm
Goal: Become attractive
Age: 18

Sat Nov 05, 2022 4:04 pm

I, mountmitchell, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm looking to improve my looks in order to improve my quality of life from the Halo Effect.
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MikeStyles
Posts: 6 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Sun Nov 06, 2022 3:33 am
Goal: Date attractive women.
Age: 37

Sun Nov 06, 2022 4:43 am

Hi all,

I, Mike, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm here to connect with a like-minded tribe.

Cheers
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LordWilmore
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Joined: Wed Nov 09, 2022 4:20 am
Goal: Get laid more
Age: 42
Motto: Hedonism
Location: Texas

Wed Nov 09, 2022 5:11 am

Hey y'all, I’m Lord Wilmore from Texas. I'm here to help others but to also discuss with other members the finer points of non-monogamy. If you read some of the posts I will post here, you'll see why I'm being secretive with my identity. My avatar is me, but it's been highly edited with a filter to achieve a comic look.

I, Lord Wilmore, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Have more non-monogamous sex.
-Get down to 12% body fat.
-Improve my income
-Improve confidence

Right now:
-Regular sex with 1 other couple
-At around 23% body fat.
-Finances are tight
-Confidence is high but I still have issues

Overall, I am here to talk about my experiences and to help others, but would definitely love to improve my game and confidence.
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OnTheComeUp
Posts: 18 | Thanks: 20
Joined: Thu Nov 10, 2022 2:54 am
Goal: Get Laid & Party Hard
Age: 24
Motto: Just Fucking DO IT!
Location: LA

Thu Nov 10, 2022 3:21 am

Hi everyone, I’m Jack from DC.

I, Jack, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Move to a different city (NYC, LA, or MIA)
-Have a sick body,

Short term goals:
-Get from 128lb to 150lb
-Get laid 3x
-Catch up to speed with my new team at work
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Radical
Posts: 1726 | Thanks: 1439
Joined: Sat May 30, 2020 12:02 pm
Name: Cam
Goal: Funnel/Product Building
Age: 29
Motto: Take drastic action

Thu Nov 10, 2022 4:55 am

Welcome @OnTheComeUp
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Scourne
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Joined: Thu Nov 10, 2022 9:15 am
Goal: Get laid
Age: 24

Thu Nov 10, 2022 9:19 am

Sup yall. Scourne here. Coming from San Diego, California. Quick background: software engineer, music festival goer, and typical gym bro.

To put things simply, I'm annoyed at myself for procrastinating on online dating apps, going on dates, and getting laid. I keep making bullshit excuses saying that I still live with family, that I'll wait till I move to San Francisco, that I'll wait until I dress better and get leaner. Pure nonsense. Deep down, I know this is just some way to cope and avoid failure. I need to remind myself to give myself permission to suck. Maybe glue that quote somewhere, perhaps my door.

Incremental Goals:
- Get a girl's phone number from online apps
- Go on a date
- Get laid from apps for the first time
- Get a FWB
- Have fun with all of this

I, Scourne, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Looking forward to talking to all of you.
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bravenewsoul
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Joined: Tue Nov 08, 2022 6:20 pm
Name: Dan
Goal: Build a Career
Age: 36
Motto: Do what thou wilt, that is the whole of the law
Location: Northern Ireland
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Thu Nov 10, 2022 9:52 am

Hey I'm Dan I'm from Northern Ireland I'm 36, I found this forum after watching Andy and Imogen on PWF live stream. After watching Andy's content, I realized I aligned with kill your inner lose more than other content creators.

My goal is improve my finances, I'm currently working on bulking to 80kg, I'm 74kg at the minute.

My life shifted recently after a toxic relationship which resulted in a break up. Glad that is over lol.

My philosophy in life is that shit happens, you can either sit and cry about it or face the pain and do the hard work to improve yourself.

Thank you for reading.
Dan
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MakingAComeback
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Joined: Tue Jan 19, 2021 1:17 pm
Goal: 3k Per Month Post Tax
Age: 32
Motto: POSITIVE SELF TALK

Thu Nov 10, 2022 10:08 am

Welcome all new recruits!

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-Your friend, Ravi

Consistent Performance Coach, Admin of WinnerWithin, and Seeker of Human Potential

My FB Group for Consistent Performance & Goal Achievement
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Gringo
Posts: 11 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Fri Nov 11, 2022 12:34 am
Goal: Get ladies
Age: 42
Motto: Mind your business

Fri Nov 11, 2022 3:28 pm

What up brother,

I Bo commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 42 and most interested in girls 18-25 for hookups.

Also interested in settling down if I find the right woman, probably in her late 20s to early 30s.
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kavz67
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Joined: Fri Nov 11, 2022 4:57 pm
Name: Kavin
Goal: Find a relationship
Age: 21
Location: United Kingdom

Fri Nov 11, 2022 5:13 pm

"I, Kavin, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

Hey, hope everyone is doing well. I'm grateful these forums were created.

Goals right now:

-Change my attitude and think more positively i.e change my self image (it's something I've always struggled with)
-Improve my dating life(try and get my first date)
-increase my YouTube channel's growth
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Myelinated
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Joined: Fri Nov 11, 2022 1:58 pm
Name: Julius
Goal: Enjoy Life
Age: 30
Motto: Audentis Fortuna Iuvat

Fri Nov 11, 2022 9:29 pm

How's it going everyone. I, Josh, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. Nice to meet everyone!

I'll give a quick spiel about my pros, cons, and what I want to work towards. I overall have got an amazing amount of potential but no direction for how to harness it. The potential is what's kept me alive to this point despite not really ever being happy or content with the state of things (Since middle school, really never). I'm living right outside of Boston, 30, very intelligent, have a master's in pharma research from a top tier school and with my current career path as well as being born into wealth I don't have to worry about expenses when I'm living modestly. I'm in between jobs right now, will probably stay in the pharma sector but am having some serious considerations if I should either tweak my career path or go back to school entirely as work has never really made me happy and I feel like I'm not utilizing everything I could be by just doing science work. I'm a great writer/editor, for example. It's sobering working in a lab with a PhD who sends you documents riddled with his grammatical errors...

I have a good, young face (I often get mistaken for being in my mid 20s when cleanshaven) and plenty of hair. I've shed about 30 lbs in the last year after cutting off junk food and eating out often and have been working with a trainer as a motivator since August. Not going to lie, having a gym in my apartment was also the catalyst to get fit since it removed as much resistance as possible. I look better now than I ever did before in my life and there's more to come. I'll post a progress pic in the appropriate forum but I've been putting flexing pics on social media and certain dating apps and I think I'm getting positive responses. My biggest goal out of this is to try and lose more bodyfat; I can lift plenty but want to get more vascular and have the muscles I know I have be able to be shown even though it's really, REALLY not aligned with my body type. It's all for aesthetics really.

Cons: I have a really bad headspace. Social anxiety has always, always been in my way. My head is the worst place to be in. When pot got legalized here I experimented with it and basically with sativa heavy strains I found that the anxiety melted away and I inverted the shell of a personality I had, showing an interest in meeting people, being funny and confident, and wanting to try new things instead of spending another night playing a video game i've logged thousands of hours into already. The obvious issue is I can't keep that mindset on a consistent basis and I'm being very careful not to become to acclimated to it.

Physicality wise, I'm also 5'5 which has always been an extremely sore topic for me. I used to be overweight (no more than 200lbs) which combined with the height made me have zero confidence and zero game. Very rarely have I talked to a girl in my life and had her not be looking somewhere else instead of looking at my eyes. I used to think I was hideous for the longest time.

My biggest issue is depression/anxiety right now, I think. It saps my energy if I skip a day without my prescribed meds and most of what I attempt to do is done without any immediate positive feedback, except for superficial dopamine hits (gaming, porn, etc) which makes those behaviors hard to stay consistent with. I have no life goals, nothing really brings me pleasure or contentment besides those superficial dopamine hits, and successes are either waved away as "not enough" or if not possible, they're waved away to immediately go to the next checkmark. I recognize my irrational behavior, even why I do it, but I have many automatic thoughts and a really bad memory and I am taking a long time to learn from my mistakes. This bled into my career as well; I'm lucky enough to really have the intelligence to do whatever I wanted to, but I never wanted anything and just kind of adopted goals from other people throughout my life; obviously, that wasn't sustainable.

This is a start of something good, though. I've always hated to ask for help and make myself vulnerable and this post is doing exactly that.


tl;dr, goals:
-have a phase for a couple of months with hookups (after that, settle down with a nice girl and buy a house, start a family)
-have some more platonic female friends (I have one very, very close one right now)
-have a younger friend group in boston who would be into the pickup/bar/club scene
-find happiness and contentment in my life instead of stressing on what i've "missed out on"
-find a career that maximizes my skills and challenges me, while also being financially rewarding if possible
-continue the fat cut to have visible muscles and vascularity

Let me know if you're around the Boston area and want a friend!
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MisterPips23
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Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2022 11:32 pm
Goal: Daygame-find a wing
Age: 59
Motto: Never Stop Learning

Sun Nov 13, 2022 12:13 am

I, Richard, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 59 and in NYC.

I've been married and divorced, have a great son, and am in a job I love. Life is pretty good for the most part. I had a long relationship (seven years) end in 2020.

I've done some online dating since then and had some success, but also a good amount of pretty unfulfilling experiences.

I've always been fascinated by cold-approaching women during the day, in no small measure because it was something (seemingly) completely outside my ability.

I have been able to start doing it, but I've struggled with getting the kind of quantity I've wanted.

One time, I was able to go out with a coach as a wingman and it was a revelatory experience. As @KillYourInnerLoser has said, you can do cold approaching on your own and that's great, but it's doing it a bit on "hard" mode. Going out with a wing is in "easy" mode. (Though I don't think it will ever be truly easy.)

My number one goal is to continue with my cold-approaching journey, never give up and find a wing in the NYC area.
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Gringo
Posts: 11 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Fri Nov 11, 2022 12:34 am
Goal: Get ladies
Age: 42
Motto: Mind your business

Sun Nov 13, 2022 7:24 pm

I, Gringo, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 42. I'd like to attract hot girls ages 18-25 for hookups.

I'm also open to settling down in a monogamous relationship with a woman age 28-33.
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Aurelius
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Joined: Tue Nov 15, 2022 7:23 pm
Goal: Get laid
Age: 35
Motto: Do or do not, there is no try
Location: UK

Tue Nov 15, 2022 9:02 pm

I Aurelius, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm a 35 year old dude living in the UK.
Always been a very socially anxious guy (hell, I was a virgin until I was 28) due to a combination of low self esteem, major anxiety and depression during most of my 20s, and a weight problem.
Been on a 5 year dry spell and am at a currently lay count of 2, which is really not good at all. I aim to change that.

I have gone to the gym on and off over the years with varying levels of commitment, I was around 300lbs at 21 years old, I did eventually manage to get that down to 240lbs, although over the years I've kind of yo-yo'd around between 240lbs and 270lbs.
I did dabble with PUA stuff in my mid to late 20s (i.e Mystery Method), but never really had much success with it as I realise now I was trying to be someone I wasn't, memorising daft 'routines' and such.

I think over the last 5-6 years I'd just kind of given up on myself, thrown myself into a job at the time that I didn't particularly like, partially to try make money, hoping that would make me happy, and I think partially as a distraction so I wouldn't have to face up and deal with the fact I was entering my 30s and was still a 'loser'.
The pandemic kind of put things into perspective for me, I was working throughout the entire thing and started thinking to myself that I'm wasting my life, and life's too short to waste, what the hell have I been doing these last few years etc.

I've always been interested in coding, but never really pursued a career in that sector.
During 2021 I started teaching myself full stack development from online resources during my spare time (rather than wasting my time playing video games like I'd been the previous few years), with the aim of buidling a portfolio and eventually landing a job as a junior dev.

During a holiday away this summer with friends, to cut a long story short, a bunch of things, both positive and negative happened that made me think "Dude, you could be slaying if you put some effort in and bettered yourself, why the fuck aren't you? Get off your arse".
Actually discovered this site and Andy's writings the next day got myself back on Tinder and actually managed to arrange a date over Tinder with a girl back in the UK using the advice in the Tinder guide, although unfortunately she ended up meeting someone else and entering a relationship before we could meet. Still, I made more progress in that one day than I have the last 5 years, so you gotta take the good with the bad.

Even did a few cold approaches in the bars (after a bunch of drinks though, I won't lie), and while they didn't lead anywhere, it did give my self-esteem a boost and make me realise "Hey, that went nowhere nearly as badly as you thought it was gonna be"

I decided I needed to make a change.

When I got back to the UK, I ended up handing in my notice at my job as it was draining the life out me literally and figuratively, and enrolling on a software development course which I'm currently in the process of completing.

I also got myself back in the gym earlier last month after a long lay off, and while I admit my dedication has been hit-and-miss, I'm working on making sure I go 4x a week, and make sure I'm sticking to my diet even when I do miss workouts. Although I am being stricter with myself about sticking to the workouts.
Currently down to 268lbs from starting at 276lbs.

Got myself into the habit of replying to my Tinder/Bumble/Hinge matches daily, no excuses, even signed up for Tinder Gold.
Started re-reading Andy's Tinder guide in more depth, as well as watching some of Playing With Fire's stuff.

My goals:

- Stick to my gym routine, lifting 4x a week (upper/lower split), stick to my diet and get my weight down from around 270lb (current) to 180lbs (goal) by this time next year.
- Hit 100kg bench/150kg squat/200kg deadlift by this time next year.
- Go on at least 1 date before the year 2022 is over, in November now so it's definitely do-able.
- Get comfortable having conversations with strangers in person.
- Fuck at least 20 girls during 2023 from Tinder/Hinge/Bumble/cold approach.
- Land a software developer job by April 2023.
- Own my own place by the end of 2023.
- Work on my mental health. While I wouldn't say I'm depressed these days, I definitely do have a mind that easily tends to veer down pessimistic thought patterns, which I'm working on changing, though daily meditation and reading some of the books Andy recommends such as 'You Can't Afford The Luxury of a Negative Thought' and 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius, which I absolutely love and wish I'd discovered years ago.
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EliJeeli
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Joined: Sun Oct 23, 2022 2:10 pm
Name: Eli
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 24

Wed Nov 16, 2022 3:33 am

I, Eli commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

24 year old in the US.
Socially anxious man looking to get a social life and get laid. Recently graduated from college and make 60k/yr but have high student loan debt. Read the guide, got better Tinder pictures (iPhone) and outfits. Get around 2-3 matches a week and have been on 3 dates since starting in October 2022.

Goals:
1. Get a high-quality camera
2. Get Laid (honestly just want a gf but unsure of whether I should aim for getting laid first instead).
3. Move out on my own to a city with a higher population (living with parents in a town with less than 10,000 people. I do live next to a city with 90,000 people though.)
4. Get lean (currently 162 lbs, 5'7, look skinny-fat)
5. Make friends focused on self-improvement (pretty much have no friends besides the ones I grew up with, don't hang-out with them much though)
6. Get a side-hustle.

Picture of me here: viewtopic.php?f=40&t=1768
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