natedawg wrote: ↑Mon Dec 26, 2022 3:57 pm
colgate wrote: ↑Mon Dec 26, 2022 3:43 pm
and i bring those months up specifically because i was actually doing things and got into the flow of them instead of being too scared to start.
Hey brother, hope you're doing well in Japan.
Seems like you're going through a stifling period. Curious, what's the #1 thing you're working on currently?
I'm wondering if you're setting the goals up to be too big in your head (which makes you freeze up), instead of just starting with the little things, then build up from there.
honestly i think it's way simpler than that
it's literally simple things like trying to concentrate for even an hour on actually studying japanese.
i'm at the level where i finished all the fun parts and my effective level is a result of what i spent most of my time doing (chatting and making "language exchange" friends (but they're actually one-sided where we basically only speak japanese)).
i already know what to do for language learning and i have enlisted
@MakingAComeback for accountability on it.
the other goal is just getting jacked, which was going great until i mildly injured my shoulder. but i think I'll be able to work out again normally starting this week. also the detour made me incorporate daily stretching in my life now and actually take "care" seriously
the reason i'm focusing on these two seemingly bizarre indirect areas is because i ultimately "don't like my current product" (from testing it if you've read my logs from a year ago!) and it needs to change.
i did one approach session here a month ago and went up to around 20 girls. but ultimately i felt like a fucking retard because i don't believe in my own value in this place. and i've decided ultimately i just have to increase my own value. i've done it before already and it works and there's no bizarre mental tricks around it
part of my japanese study is actually somewhat kyil/gll-equivalents in that it's about things you need to do but specific to japan. but I'm not just consuming the content like Kirby (unlike kyil stuff 1.5 years ago) because
- there's no magic anymore for me of OMG THIS GUY BANGED A GIRL HE JUST STARTED TALKING TO WTF??? because i've heard so many stories and I've been at this for over a year at this point so it's basically my life now
- it's japanese so i can't just mindlessly consume it, i have to sit down and replay spam parts i didn't understand and etc. I'm sure after doing this for a month or so consistently I'll have a breakthrough and genuinely enjoy it though, as i've experienced this kind of path in the past
so yeah, this period has been stifling but i'm also 100% certain that it's temporary and it's also mostly a shell-shock reaction of going from "boo all the girls are fat and masculine" to "ok i need to change x y z a b c about myself let's fucking go". there's so much i look forward to here in japan and so many inexplicable tiny nuances and things that i do like. i would say it's more of a "cleansing" and "rebuilding" period than a stifling one