Day 1 of 365: Sup guys – kicking off my first ever podcast!
It’s a little rough around the edges, but as I mentioned in Give Yourself Permission to Suck, it’s more important to just get started, rather than stressing about making things “perfect”. My first guest was my girlfriend Imogen – she did a pretty solid job.
Here’s a photo of where we were sitting during recording:
I plan on doing some of these with guests, some just by myself, and some “call-in” shows with other friends of mine/clients of mine/random people who are also on their own self-improvement journeys.
If you have any questions you’d like me or my girlfriend Imogen to answer, drop a comment below and we’ll cover them in a future podcast.
Same goes if you have a particular topic you’d like me to cover, or a particular question – ask away.
Hi, Andy, it’s great to hear you have a new project!
I loved the podcast, you two were great.
I would like to know your thoughts on open relationships. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I want to meddle with your lives, but I would like to know how your opinion on open relationships, and how you deal with boundaries, jealousy, and the stuff that comes with it. (In my case, the thought of my LTR sleeping with other men would be really annoying, but on the other hand, I want to sleep with every woman I find attractive).
I love the new project and I wish you guys the best!
Cheers mate. Yep we already have plenty of topics/questions written down re: open relationships – we’ll cover that in an upcoming podcast. Maybe the next podcast.
EDIT: It’s up: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1279346/5074784
-Andy
Podcast is up – #5 – Open Relationships & Boundaries:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1279346/5074784-5-open-relationships-boundaries
Awesome Andy! I’ll hear it right away!
Hi Andy and Imogen!
Your podcast has been excellent.
First of all, I’m sorry I was not entirely clear when writing the message above. There are a couple of things I did not clarify. Besides that, English is not my native language and I am still learning it.
As you said, my problem was precisely with the possibility of having an one-side open relationship, and the two misconceptions that can arise from this:
On one hand, what I’ve mentioned above, that one could think himself of as a hypocrite for wanting an open one-sided relationship, a question that you clarified brilliantly.
And on the other hand, the asshole red pill extreme of not giving a damn of what a partner thinks, and to do what you want without caring for anything, which would also be a harmful extreme, and that you have also explained in your podcast.
Since I started reading your articles, a couple of months ago, I am gradually eliminating many negative and toxic ideas that TRP raises, and I’m trying to find a healthy balance for myself, (you know, asserting my desires and myself, but without hurting others or being toxic).
The idea that equality doesn’t mean shit if the parts are not happy is absolutely true. And these words by Imogen –What i’m giving up in terms of you seing other girls, you give me 10x in mentoring, love, affection and support– really reasonated with me and were really clarifying.
Oh, and, about my situation, I’m a newbie, a beginner. I am 22 years old and I am not in an LTR at the moment, what I told you above was more of a hypothetical point. In fact, there is not much progress in my sexual life thanks to the dictatorial isolation of almost 200 days that the government of my country has decided to impose (and probably because of my own lack of action too…). I’m trying to read as much as I can (and yes, I know that reading a lot and doing nothing is USELESS, but the truth is there is not much I can do at the moment, or at least that’s what I think). But, anyway, what I was looking for was for someone to give me a positive perspective on open relationships, since although I want to have a lot of sex, my ideal is to eventually find a bisexual girl who is ok with the idea of me having sex with other girls, and to have an one-side open relationship.
Anyway, Andy, it’s a pleasure to hear your podcast and I want to tell you and Imogen that I really appreciate the length and detail of your response. The work that you do is invaluable and the fact that you are trying to find a healthy balance between TRP and the other extreme is something for which I am immensely grateful, because it totally changed my views on relationships and life. Before knowing KYIL, I was full TRP, dishonest and closed, and that was not healthy, so you really are like a mentor to me.
Oh, and one other thing. It’s admirable how honest you are with each other. You are the living example of “honesty is the best policy”.
Anyway, I want to tell you the podcast was very clear and you have more than clarified all my doubts and questions. And you have taken a lot of prejudice out of my head.
I send you a big greeting!!!
Hey mate, glad you got a lot out of it. Your English is perfect.
Re: The Red Pill/being toxic/etc, we’ll cover that in a future episode at some point. I have lots to say about that.
Sorry to hear about your lockdowns – lockdowns are really bad here in Melbourne too. Just make the most of the time you have right now, as I wrote here:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/are-you-using-this-time-productively/
“my ideal is to eventually find a bisexual girl who is ok with the idea of me having sex with other girls, and to have an one-side open relationship.”
Now that you know you really want this, go out there and make it happen. There are a TONNE of bisexual girls who’d love to sleep with other girls with you. Your mission is to go find them.
“It’s admirable how honest you are with each other.”
Thanks mate. It took a lot of time and patience for me to get to this point – as you know, I was very much into TRP and I hated women for a very long time. Life is a LOT easier when you like women though; honesty makes things a billion times less stressful. You get to just relax, enjoy your time with each girl and have a bunch of fun together. I trust Imogen with everything; it’s amazing having someone you trust that much. I trust her as much as I trust my bros – I know she’d “take a bullet for me” just like my closest mates would.
-Andy