Indian Loser wrote: ↑Tue Dec 05, 2023 11:08 pm
LR #2. Girl #46
Brunette with Blue Eyes
6.5/10
This was an interesting interaction that I ended up learning a lot from. I learned about how prolonging sex with the girl can make it easier to retain her after you eventually have sex. I think it's because more investment has built up. I also realized how important it is for me to have a woman who is kind and nurturing above all else. Ambition, intelligence, etc are all secondary qualities for me personally.
So I met up with this girl for drinks on our first date. Realized within the first few minutes of meeting her that it was a bit of a catfish. She's about 30-40lbs heavier than her pictures. She's overweight but the weight went to her ass, arms and tits, which I'm fine with. Her face is absolutely beautiful. You can tell this girl is a solid 8-8.5 once she manages to lose a bit of weight. I should also note that I am a catfish as well. I'm about 40lbs lighter in my pictures than in reality lol. So I can't exactly be judgemental about catfishing haha. Bottom line: I was attracted to this girl and I was down to hook up.
We grab drinks for our first date. I invite her back to my place which she politely declines.
We set up a second date to go play mini golf and grab drinks. We grab drinks, play mini golf, and end up at my place. We start making out but she's not down for sex just yet.
The third date was watching a movie at her place. I automatically knew we would finally hook up and that's what happened. The sex was enjoyable but nothing crazy good. She gave pretty good head and her pussy tasted good as well. Far from the best sex I've ever had though.
We hung out for a few more weeks after that as work was getting really busy for me and I needed stability. We ended up going exclusive which was a huge mistake in hindsight. I told her 2 weeks ago that I don't think it's going to work out long-term between us. I'm trying to move it back to an open relationship but I doubt it will happen. She feels way too rejected at this point.
Oh well. Live and learn. So currently I have 0 girls that I'm seeing regularly which is a problem. Really need to focus on building the rotation up.
Lessons:
- Let the girl bring up the conversation about exclusivity
- Try to keep it a open relationship as long as possible
- Don't just go into exclusivity cause she's asking. Be honest.
Respect man. You're new to this all, but you're learning things quickly.
As for keeping things open, you say "as long as possibe." My man, that can be forever if it's important to you. I just got out of a 1.5 year relationship (I ended things) and the whole time I was free to sleep with other girls on my own. Up front, before we even had sex, I just made it clear that's what I wanted and it wouldn't change.
Even now, after we've broken up, she wants us to be FWB. I was actually apprehensive about it, since I've built up feelings from dating her for so long, but she wanted to be fwb so bad I decided I could try it, and it's been pretty dang awesome. And she doesn't create drama either.
I say this to show you what is possible if a girl is really into you. And to show you that you don't have to accept a monogamous relationship if you don't want it. Don't get me wrong, a lot of guys PREFER monogamy, but if you don't, nobody is making you do it.
Just keep on grinding, working on yourself, etc. and you'll eventually be valuable enough that girls will be so into you they won't care. Trust me, I used to be fat and mentally ill, on all sorts of fucked up meds.
You've got this man. You're in the right place.