Getting over outcome dependency is definitely hard, but once u can approaches will be like nothing. I'm only hypothesizing at this point since I'm still very inexperienced at approaching as well. Once I get a few hundred cold approaches under my belt ill report back. at this point I'm just pulling from my past experiences with the AA program. During that I called like 200+ girls cute and towards the end of that it became easy. Real approaches are a bit different but there are some parallels as wellSamJ_ wrote: ↑Fri May 28, 2021 12:04 amYeah one thing I was thinking about is intentionally trying to do approaches that really spike my anxiety. I try too hard to hide my anxiety from the girls I think, because I'm embarrassed to show anything that might be perceived as weakness because I have been caring too much about the outcome. But I need to change that and really try to get myself repeatedly in situations that really spike my anxiety and embarrassment. And I've already done that to some extent but I need to do it way more with way less hesitation. I guess the only things I'm not gonna do are approach girls alone in dark alleys at night, cuz I don't wanna make them super uncomfortable or scared, and I also don't wanna make huge scenes in front of like 50+ people either. Other than those two situations I think every other excuse I'm making not to approach is a stupid excuse I need to force myself to get over.
Aside from obviously harmful or weird situations like you mentioned, most approaches are going to be fair game. Its mostly pushing the boundaries of what your mind is capable of dealing with.