colgate's nashville log - 9/22/21 - 6/20~25 in 1h of daygame, "my parents took the sim card out of my phone"

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Sat Sep 04, 2021 9:41 am

colgate wrote:
Sat Sep 04, 2021 9:36 am
Olafsmash wrote:
Sat Sep 04, 2021 9:27 am
"Really wish there was a "Physical Contact Anxiety Program"
There is some of this in the AA program. Gll also has its own program for bars which teaches you to touch/devolop "killer instict" (ala being more aggresive)
Yeah I think I should check out some of these drills specifically. I feel really solid up until it involves physical contact past hugging. Like I can pretty much just go up to any girl I want (day or night) and talk to her now, but what next?
Go read a bunch of articles on GLL. Chris lays it out exactly what you need to do. https://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/ ... ars-part-8
Read this from part 1.
Find "killer instict" articles.
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colgate
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Goal: Get Laid
Age: 25
Motto: incurring repeated rejection yields success

Tue Sep 07, 2021 6:48 am

This was 2 nights ago.

I went out with my friend again to Broadway at night and did 9 approaches? But I decided to get buzzed as well haha

Later we went to a Mexican club somewhere else and I was able to immediately put my arm around this one girl and we started hitting it off but I didn't escalate from there and she found some other dude on the dance floor. WHERE'S MY KILLER INSTINCT AAAAAAAAAAAA THIS ONE WAS LITERALLY HANDED TO ME

I was a bit bummed and the night would end with me getting totally plastered because I hit a gravity bong twice like it was a vape, having the worst fully-conscious high of my life (I couldn't move my limbs or body at all), and I ended up puking in that girl's car 🤷

青春がすばらしいなあ

(also gonna stop doing rolling stat counts, i think it's really distracting from my main goal which is literally to Get Laid)
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colgate
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Sun Sep 12, 2021 9:02 am

I was at my mom's for a week and decided to use my time there as an opportunity to take a step back and evaluate what I've done in the past few weeks.

The confidence I've gained from approaching girls, and the realization that *I* am the driver of my own car led me to believe that I can actually make my "pipe dreams" happen, and that I don't need approval from my parents or friends about what I choose to do with my life.

My pipe dream is to move to Japan for at least a year, play music live at dance clubs and shows, and busk during the day on the streets playing the drums.

I wrote the following general "main plan" with some starting tasks to do:

Become a minimalist. Get rid of as much as possible.
  • Sell it on Facebook Marketplace
    Pawn it off at McKays
    Give it away
    Toss it
Continue to approach girls in the daytime.
  • Builds confidence
    You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take
    PUSH FOR INSTADATES. Number is a last resort.
    Go for highest volume possible. High volume -> more dates
    In 3 weeks with ~100 approaches, you got 2 dates
Continue to go out at night.
  • Don’t bother with numbers.
    Physical Contact Escalation
    • Hand over girl
      Go for the kiss, aggressive not smooth
Get back into music production (with the aim of having a live show)
  • Start 365 project to spend 2 hours a day in Logic Pro X
    Give yourself permission to suck, even though you’ve been making music for 9 years. It's new software (to you).
Get back into playing drums (with the aim of busking)
  • Obtain a drum kit (just kick, snare, and hi-hat)
    Take it out on Sunday to busk practice.
    Give yourself permission to suck.
Pass the JLPT N1 in December 2022 (with the aim of moving to Japan in 2023) (I wanted to try N2 at the end of this year also, but apparently registration closed lolzzzz)
  • Find JLPT N1 study materials
    Develop a study plan
Get yoked
  • Learn how to eat 3000 calories a day with minimal prep and minimal consumption effort/time
    Create a workout plan to help you get BIG (hypertrophy, rather than strength)
Work smarter
  • Work 3 hours a day (including meetings), with NO distractions
    • Set specific goals that you MUST finish in the three hours for that day


I'm also interested having an accountability partner to help me stay on track. We can discuss each others' goals and it'd be really awesome to have someone to motivate me, and someone for me to motivate. DM me if interested.
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Sun Sep 12, 2021 9:08 am

Also I really think I'm not making my life any easier by remaining in my small city. I talked with a friend in Nashville and he said he's willing to let me stay at his house for a month if I split rent with him and his roommate. So I plan on making that move within the next 1-3 weeks.

His roommate is also a Tinder pro and pulls 18 year olds regularly, and is a professional videographer and said he'll help me with my online dating profiles when I get over there.
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Sun Sep 12, 2021 9:31 am

Lets go G. HMU on PMs w/ your WhatsApp and let's connect for accountability.

MAC
-Weight Loss: Get to 200lbs (Starting point: 248.4lbs @ 6 ft 5)
-Sex Life: Goal: 8 dates by 31/12/21
-Change Career & Build Wealth: Get out of current industry in July 2021, begin new path according to my 5 year plan.
-Enjoying Life: Travel and tick off bucket-list items.

My Progress Log: Outworking God's Plan - My Relentless Journey (viewtopic.php?f=42&t=573)
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Sun Sep 12, 2021 4:00 pm

@MakingAComeback

I PM'ed you my deets, but I'm not sure if you got it because it seems to be stuck in my outbox. I'll check back in a few hours to see if it's still there.
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Sun Sep 12, 2021 10:55 pm

As I said, my 365 project is to spend 2 hours a day writing music, and uploading whatever I did regardless of how good or how bad it is.

Here's my entry for today:
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Tue Sep 14, 2021 4:27 am

Trying something new. I narrowed down my specific goals, and I'm going to try to make sure I make some progress on each of them everyday. This is in order of priority, and I'll be switching them around as needed.

Become a minimalist
More random sorting through my stuff and deciding what to toss. I really need to amp this up a bit more because I'm going to move to Nashville next week.

Get Laid
Didn't do anything today. I was out, but only for gym and errands. I should probably make an effort to approach at least 1 girl if I don't go for a session. Idk, this seems to have taken a bit of a back seat for a while because I am way more interested in my other goals right now (as opposed to last month where I basically only focused on this goal and ignored my other hobbies/goals).

I'm definitely going to be way more serious when I get to Nashville, but I still think I need to at least go out and do some approaches. I'll try to do some tomorrow (I didn't even attempt any today so I don't know how my AA is).

Get Jacked
Gym:
- Bench Press 5x5 - 145 lbs
- Weighted Pullups 5x5 - 15 lbs
- Cable Crunches 5x15 - 67.5 lbs

Food:
I have had a lot of trouble trying to figure out the easiest and least time consuming way to eat 3000 calories (while still getting my macros and micros). Plugged this into Cronometer and got something decent
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I went out to Whole Foods and bought all this so looking forward to actually gaining some weight finally and not plateauing so soon on my lifts.

Have a live show with my music
365 project entry:


Really want to get faster at using Logic Pro X, but I enjoy using it despite being slow.

Work smarter
My goal is to work 3 hours, distraction-free everyday. This is extremely hard because I have like 5 other things going on and I'd rather do those. I did manage to work distraction-free for maybe 1.5 hours though.

Pass the JLPT N1 in Dec 2022
I uncovered an N1 book in....Chinese...that a friend gave me some years ago. But it doesn't really matter because all the practice problems are in Japanese so this will be a really useful resource. I'll start going through this book tomorrow.
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Wed Sep 15, 2021 2:47 am

Okay, I know literally yesterday I said I was going to focus on trying to do multiple things at once and get a little progress on each one. But I noticed when I do that, I get overwhelmed and I end up doing nothing. Yesterday I could only think about doing music, but I needed to finish sorting stuff to get rid of, and then I completely ignored any progress on Getting Laid, and I put all of that off because I was procrastinating my work stuff.

Today was even worse, I just kept putting off my current work task because I REALLY did not want to do it, and while I did eat 3000 calories today, putting off my work task meant I didn't get time to produce any music (I did noodle on my guitar for like an hour, but I didn't record it). And on top of that, that made me put off my minimalism goals because I really didn't want to do that either. Lots of wheel spinning in the past 3 days since I got back.

I also remember that I was making a lot of progress with approaching and trying to get laid last month, because I literally only focused on that and nothing else. As a side benefit, I got a lot of work done last month because all I knew was the only other thing I "had" to do was go out and approach, and my life was way simpler.

Somehow, I was fortunate enough to run into this video by @Radical and it was kind of a sign from God:

So I need to focus on one goal at a time at any given point. I need to think about what I want the most and make sure I make active progress on that each day. If I have time, I'll try to work on other goals but I really need to prioritize one thing.

So for this week, that's becoming a minimalist and getting rid of as much of my belongings as I can. I need to focus on this right now because I'm going to be moving next week, and then eventually in February 2022, and having a lot of physical clutter and crap I don't need causes me to have a lot of mental clutter. Plus, I already started so my rooms are basically huge messes right now. But I keep putting it off and then I'm like "oh by the way you have to make some music and also try to go out and approach and you have to do all this other crap", and end up getting nothing done. By zoning in on this minimalism goal for a few days, hopefully I can move on to something else more quickly.

Next week when I go to Nashville, of course I'll be focusing again on approaching and getting laid. But for the next few days, I'll use this log to document my "getting rid of crap" (mini)-goal.
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Wed Sep 15, 2021 5:23 am

colgate wrote:
Wed Sep 15, 2021 2:47 am
Next week when I go to Nashville, of course I'll be focusing again on approaching and getting laid. But for the next few days, I'll use this log to document my "getting rid of crap" (mini)-goal.
Awesome man. Glad you got on the Mike Wagon
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Current Goals

1a Move to Toronto before Sept. 30
1b Move/visit Asia for 12+ months late 2022 or early 2023

Accomplished Goals:
AA program (viewtopic.php?f=42&t=40)
Pay Raise + Apartment with A+ logistics

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colgate
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Thu Sep 16, 2021 5:08 am

Got a good amount of progress in cleaning out my stuff, I think I've fully separated everything I need to get rid of and everything I'm going to keep. Put up a bunch of things on Facebook marketplace and gonna take a bunch of stuff to the local hobby store tomorrow.

Did okay with work. I told my boss that I really hated my current task but I wanted to get it done today and that he should message me in 3 hours to see if it's done. I ended up doing a bunch of researching about how to DJ instead, but I got some decent progress (way better than yesterday, where I did almost absolutely nothing). He's expecting me to finish this tomorrow, but I'm tired now so I'll just wake up and try to complete it before he calls me.

Today's workout:
Overhead Press 5/5/4 - 105 lbs, 6/5 - 95 lbs
Dumbbell Rows 5x10 - 50 lbs
Long-lever Posterior-tilt Planks - 5x40sec/rest 20sec

Also ate 3000 calories again today. I think the diet I made in Cronometer is really easy for me to follow and it's generally fast, although dinner has a bit more prep/cleanup than I'd like.

No music stuff other than getting distracted and looking into how DJing works, and more of my usual guitar noodling. I thought I would have had some time tonight to make some stuff but I got too distracted from work. I really need to learn how to zone in at work. 3-4 hours distraction-free and in focus is far more productive than 8 hours of meandering, and I'm not really sure what to do. My ideal situation would be I would spend exactly 3 hours and get a LOT done, and then have more free time in the day, but I have a lot of trouble staying focused when I have a lot of tedious work.
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Sat Sep 18, 2021 6:46 am

Posting an update for the past 2 days since I didn't post yesterday.

I felt really whiny yesterday and I decided the only thing I could do about it is just approach. I sold a bunch of my stuff at the hobby store, and then went to the mall. Thursday night at the mall is fucking dead but I went 0/3. I did see about 8 girls total that I would have hit on, so I definitely had some no-approach AA built up. Surprisingly, I hit on the first girl I saw no sweat, but I had more AA after that initial approach.

Which made me realize that I really hadn't taken the whole idea of "incurred rejection is a prerequisite to success" to heart. Like I kind of just knew that at the surface level and was out approaching as much as I could last month, but I realized it also applies to other areas of life outside of approach. I've been complaining a lot (mainly to myself) about how much I hate living in my city, how much I hate tedious work tasks, how much I hate cleaning out my stuff...etc. At the beginning of this week, I thought "oh I'm not gonna have time to approach...I have to really clean out my stuff and I need to catch up on work and im gonna be leaving next week anyway...and etc". Honestly, I should have known better and those were just excuses. By not approaching, I started getting really complacent again and I really kind of had a shit week in general.

I had a dream last night where I had a house party at my place with some local friends. Condensing most of the details. There was one girl (who I completely fabricated in the dream, not someone I actually knew in real life) that sat next to me at the dining table and "accidentally" started holding my hand. She started moving it towards her chest, so I basically immediately went for a kiss, and we made out for a few minutes. Later, my roommate saw us kissing, and said "Yo, let's go outside" to everyone. He let everyone out but then blocked me from leaving and told me "She has STDs." I was like "damn.....i might have them now......" and then I sat outside on the stairs. The girl came up to me and started to snuggle against me but I basically told her that I can't see a girl who has STDs. She ran off crying and I went away from the house and walked alongside the road. I had a very sad realization that I have some deep-seated belief that the only girls who like me "have problems", and I'll never get a girl I like to be interested. At this point, I woke up from the dream.

My whole day today was clouded by this thought. I know this isn't true, but it's a subconscious belief I've had this whole time and perhaps it's been limiting me in some way. I couldn't concentrate on work, and while I did do some errands, I was basically aimlessly driving around all day ruminating and trying to process this feeling. I didn't even want to talk to anyone, let alone any girls.

At some point I parked and threw out some trash into a public garbage bin. Then I realized I didn't have my phone. Turns out I threw my phone into the garbage too. I didn't know what else to do so I just held my breath and fished it out of the trash, and then washed it in a bathroom at a tea shop. I mention this event because it was so absurd to me, that it kind of snapped me out of the trance I was in the whole day, and maybe the whole week. I was literally so disconnected from reality and stuck in my head, that I threw my fucking phone in the trash lmao. I was also reminded of the lesson I learned yesterday about how not approaching made me really complacent and whiny, and got to finishing the work I'd been procrastinating all week.

Every time I got yet another bullshit runtime error, I saw it as another rejection on the approach. I learned first-hand how confidence from approaching gets repackaged into other domains. Fix the error->another one pops up->fix that one->another one pops up. It's like approach girl->rejected->approach girl->rejected. But then eventually you get approach girl->instadate/exchange because you were able to persevere through all of the approach girl->rejecteds. The same thing happened to me, like 4 hours later, at work. I viscerally felt how success can be predicated on how well you're able to stomach repeated adversity, and I feel way better than I've felt the whole week.

Tomorrow I just have to pack the stuff I'm taking to Nashville, and sell some more stuff. Really looking forward to being there this weekend.
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colgate
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Sun Sep 19, 2021 6:56 am

Trying a new thing where instead of merely logging what I did at the end of the day as observation, at the beginning of the day I write the log that I WANT to write in a notepad, and then try to live my day in a way where my real log is as close as possible to my prediction log, then Let’s see how that goes.

Key:
did
didn't do

So this morning I had an accountability call with @MakingAComeback , and I just said how I’m gonna put myself out there and get to work approaching when I go to Nashville next week. One of the members from the day game WhatsApp group used to live in Nashville and gave me a bunch of places with good volume and potential date spots. I’m also going to be pushing for an insta-date on every girl and getting her number should be secondary. Since I want to push for insta-dates, I’m not giving myself any sort of volume goals (so I can focus on pushing for insta-dates). I feel like I’m comfortable enough to push myself and wing it now (although let’s see what my log next week says haha). He said that he’s finding a place to live in London and he’s going to be approaching a lot too.

Did my laundry and packed my clothes and stuff that I’ll take to Nashville, and I sold some more things I didn’t need at the hobby store.

I decided to have an approach day where I don’t ask for *any* numbers at all. I’m literally leaving tomorrow so what’s the point lol. I just decided to approach girls at the mall and push for insta-dates. I ended up approaching maybe 25 girls but no dates :(. But hey, it’s good to get some mileage in.


Finally had some more time to continue my 365 project I kept putting off. It wasn’t that I was unsatisfied with my content, I just didn’t even try to make anything because I was so complacent this week. Here’s my entry for today:


Figured it’s my last night here so I’d also go out at night and try to pull there. I sat around at the “party” bar in this city for a while to settle in and then approached some girls at the bar and dance floor. I was able get my arm around some and get some physical contact, but ultimately I couldn’t pull any of them out of the place.

Alright, tomorrow it’s the big city for me for the next month. Hell yeah.


lol this method of logging is really embarrassing when you fuck up hahahh, oh well i'll post it
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Sun Sep 19, 2021 7:48 am

Thanks for the call bro I appreciate it, you're a great dude and I am fucking inspired by your goals of playing music! Shit let's absolutely smash approaching and hell before we know it we'll have to go getting the volume in together sometime!!!

MAC
-Weight Loss: Get to 200lbs (Starting point: 248.4lbs @ 6 ft 5)
-Sex Life: Goal: 8 dates by 31/12/21
-Change Career & Build Wealth: Get out of current industry in July 2021, begin new path according to my 5 year plan.
-Enjoying Life: Travel and tick off bucket-list items.

My Progress Log: Outworking God's Plan - My Relentless Journey (viewtopic.php?f=42&t=573)
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colgate
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Sun Sep 19, 2021 2:36 pm

This isn't a daily log since I just woke up. I was going to try doing what I did yesterday again, but I ended up just letting out a bunch of feelings into my notepad. I really just want to post it because I just want some support and maybe tough love if I'm fucking up somewhere. Anyway:

I’m moving today but even with that thought I feel like my life force is drained or something. It doesn’t help that it’s raining and it’s going to rain for the next 4 days, but I know I can approach even when it’s raining. I guess I came to the realization that a lot of my “male drive” has shriveled up because I spent the first 25 years of my life suppressing my feelings (both emotional and sexual), and now when I’m trying to go hard on self-improvement, my past suppression has manifested itself into a physiological issue.

But surely if I can train my body into having no male desire, I can train it back, right? I mean suppressing myself in my younger years was probably some form of “conscious” decision to some degree, and probably at first it wasn’t natural. But then over time, I stopped having the ability to cry, the desire for women, the desire to crush my goals, and landed myself in mediocrity. Likewise, it’s probably best I just *be* cerebral for now, take the ACTIONS of approaching, fail a fuck ton and have a lot of experience at failure. That should rebuild my desire right.

I mean last month was literally more girls than I talked to than I have in my whole life - in a sexual interest that is. I think my past mediocrity was so effective, I was *actually able to be one of the girls* in female friend circles. A lot of girls used to, and still tell me, that when they talk to me it feels like they’re talking to one of their girlfriends. I always feel like shit when women tell me that but I thought “oh, well I actually know women for who they are and not just their body”, which was obviously some 4D chess.

Going into my move at my lowest low in the past 4 months. But fuck it, this is what I need to do. I have no options.
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