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Antonio44
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Sat Nov 05, 2022 4:29 pm

Bman wrote:
Sat Nov 05, 2022 3:16 pm
I'm very much for leveraging your mind for great impact and production (and consequently more money). However, I also believe every man would benefit from working manual labor and subjecting themselves to hard things. It can't be understated how much mental fortitude is built when you have busted your ass for 12 hours, its 2am, all you want to do is sleep, but there is still a job to be done. I promise the satisfaction you will feel physically seeing something built in front of your eyes, knowing you and a group of others put their blood, sweat, and tears into this, is a bliss worth feeling.

Most of my work now is knowledge work. However I still periodically subject myself to hard, physical endeavors. For example, I will periodically do volunteer work helping to setup events or some physical labor. I'm always down to help friends move. I do cold showers every morning, lift heavy in the gym, periodically fast and do hot saunas. I, by choice, don't have a car so I pack 2 weeks worth of groceries in a hiking backpack and two 5 gallon jugs of water on the bus and down the street.
Bman wrote:
Sat Nov 05, 2022 3:16 pm
Don't completely give up the skillset you have built in knowledge work. It's highly valuable. But do relish in this opprituntity to work with your hands. It will serve you well.
This post is great - balance in everything. Physical labour is great but it's hard on the body too, it's important to get those high value skills, I've seen too many late 40's builders/tradesmen with totally fucked bodies.

One of the most pivotal experiences I had was working building dirt roads when I was 16 - backbreaking work in often horrendous conditions carrying rocks around on the side of a mountain, for very little money. Definitely focused the mind on "I need to get skills so I don't have to rely only on my physical abilities". To have the option to do it is great, but when it's all you have it's not.
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Sat Nov 05, 2022 5:27 pm

“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.”

Godspeed, brother!
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Fri Nov 18, 2022 10:13 pm

colgate wrote:
Mon Sep 26, 2022 1:52 am

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will explain later (this is a one-way ticket btw)



credit to @Toast for recording
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Fri Nov 18, 2022 10:26 pm

@colgate, you're a rockstar. Pumped for you. Get after it!
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Sun Nov 20, 2022 9:41 am



ikebukuro station last night
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going to start posting japanese logs for language practice too
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colgate
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Wed Nov 23, 2022 3:29 am

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I finally did my first approach session here in Japan.



When I initially arrived, I had a huge rush of stress/anxiety that I couldn't put into words. I had no words to turn the anxiety into excuses, it was just a pure chemical rush.

I walked around for a while to figure out a spot to write notes in my phone, but using my phone to type was so annoying, and I just needed to get a bunch of random shit off my chest. So I made a voice note instead.
https://voca.ro/11DpIZdahrFZ

After recording that message, I was able to settle into it, and I started feeling mildly high.

And from the high, I was able to start approaching girls.




I got instantly blown out on probably 80% of the approaches. But girls get approached all the time here in Japan, plus I experienced something similar back in California when I was also approaching all Asian girls.

The funniest convo I had went something like this:
well if you have plans, then let's exchange LINE
oh.....i dont use LINE
what??? everyone uses LINE. now you should too
yeah....but i don't know you...i dont give out my LINE to people i dont know
i dont know you either??? maybe you are a scary person
i'm scary???
yeah i dont know! so thats why i have to find out
hmmmmmmm....but i still dont know you....
here show me your QR code
nooooo...
you can just ignore my messages later if you change your mind
i'll just block you....
wow!!! isn't that a bit strict
but you're a foreigner....
yeah, haven't you ever thought what foreigners are like?
yeah i have....
after this i'm gone, i'm a foreigner and also speak japanese
hmmmm........im gonna go home.....
ok go home

I approached some more girls, and then took a break to buy and smoke some cigarettes.

wtf, this is fucking dumb. why am i smoking cigarettes. im already high from approaching. i hate this. do i want my life to be smoking fucking cigarettes? for this money i could have gotten another bulk meal. but who cares about the money. now i'm going to smell like i smoke cigarettes. and i'm giving myself dopamine for doing nothing but sucking in air. this is fucking stupid. you stupid retarded idiot

I went to the same convenience store where I had just purchased the cigarettes.

hey, i am going to stop smoking cigarettes from now on, so can you please throw this out
(with a slight smile). yes sir.

I heard another female convenience store employee giggle as I walked out. I made a promise to some randos that I will stop smoking cigarettes, so that means I have to stop now.

I also got to talk to some idol looking anime chick for a bit omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! is this real???????????????? i'm finally speaking to the anime girls from anime??????????????????? not behind a screen????????????????????????????

I ended up trying to approach around 20 girls in 2-3 hours, though I could have approached way more. I had a bad habit of stalking girls for like 2-3 minutes before just bailing because I was like wtf this is dumb.

Also apparently, it's a thing in Japan to just start talking with a girl that's totally ignoring you and then if you stick it out long enough or say something interesting, she bites and starts engaging. This is completely new to me and I think I had maybe at least 3 or 4 opportunities to do it. It's very high tension for me so I'll just need to get into it.
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Wed Nov 23, 2022 11:58 am

THE KING HAS RETURNED

It is an honour to witness the development of a great man.

You look great, bro, and the work you are doing, the mentoring you're getting, and the grind you will continue to put in WILL bring you what you're looking for.....

Are you going to reach out to the Japanese Game community and get yourself further in?

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Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:00 pm

I would also like to mark this watershed moment of the forum, and if you'll grant me the honour, give a name to this epochal and seminal moment of the journey of Colgate The King:

The storm had been brewing for some time.......

Now, the tempest has been unleashed.

A new era has begun..........

THE BROWN SHOGUN

KEEP WORKING,
MAC
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Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:12 pm

MakingAComeback wrote:
Wed Nov 23, 2022 11:58 am
Are you going to reach out to the Japanese Game community and get yourself further in?
I will at some point, but I want to take action and do research by myself first.

I definitely already am aware of the things I must focus on from America that carried over to here, and I have resources and inroads into figuring out whatever Japan-specific things are necessary.

I also have @Toast and another foreigner who lives here whom I plan on meeting with tomorrow evening.

But in general, I think I've been too attached to the validation of specific communities and people I look up to over actually focusing on the things that get me laid.

I know I succeed more when I eliminate distractions from my life, so I've been slowly nipping them one by one.
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Wed Nov 23, 2022 3:24 pm

colgate wrote:
Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:12 pm
But in general, I think I've been too attached to the validation of specific communities and people I look up to over actually focusing on the things that get me laid.
Sounds very similar to the mindset change I made in my recent post. I like it.
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Wed Nov 23, 2022 5:20 pm

Haven't spoken Japanese in ages, but your accent/pronunciation sounds very solid man.

Don't be too hard on yourself, any approaches in a language which isn't your mother tongue are wins in my book.
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Wed Nov 23, 2022 11:56 pm

ego and app dating
okay, so immediately when i came here i was like "i will not use dating apps! i want my cold approach lay! and i hate using the apps!"

i had a similar attitude a year ago when i joined, and it basically took me 10 months to get over it.

and then i got laid.

i'll definitely get laid from cold approach here, it's a matter of hustle and effort.

but if my goal is japanese lay, then i need to start using the apps again

plus it'll get me more date experience, which i needed anyway in america, and i definitely need in japan, and which obviously transfers to cold approach

so the only reason not to do it is my overly inflated ego

niggaaaaa u literally hired 2 escorts in june and then got immediately laid from cold approach and apps

FUCK YO EGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TIME TO ESTOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thu Nov 24, 2022 1:04 am

がんばれ
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Sat Nov 26, 2022 4:08 am



(the video contents are basically what I'm writing in this log)

I've been using a health center sports gym with insufficient equipment to workout because it was just a 400 yen payment per session.

But I couldn't do leg day and the dumbbells only went up to 25kg.

So I finally registered for Gold's Gym.

...but it took me 3 tries LOL!

The first time, the staff told me I needed my passport and to bring gym shoes (in Japan, you have to have separate inside shoes for the gym lmao!).

The second time, I went to "Gold's Gym Premium" without knowing that there's a difference between the regular Gold's Gym and Gold's Gym "Premium". The "Premium" one just has a bunch of onsen, tanning, and massage things and there aren't many weight training machines, and they told me I should go register at the regular Gold's Gym.

Finally at the third Gold's Gym I was able to register. But she initially wanted to give me the "full-time" plan which means I could work out at any Gold's Gym in the east Japan region, when I only cared about working out at a specific gym. I was able to find out that there was a "daytime" plan which applies only to that gym and also switch my plan to that one.

And even though I would have to pay 6 months in advance since I don't have a Japanese bank account, I can cancel the plan at any point and receive most of the remaining months' share back.

I only mention all these details because this is the first time I had to try to register and negotiate something in Japanese. At this point, Japanese is kind of a pain but I basically have to get better at it to live here, and throwing myself in these situations will definitely improve that.




Also, I moved to around Shibuya so I have a permanent place until I leave Japan in February.
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Sat Nov 26, 2022 5:01 am

This community just keeps on proving that anything is possible as long as you’re willing to work for it. You moved to an entirely different country just like that. Colgate, soon to be Harem Slayer😎
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