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Fri Nov 12, 2021 2:56 pm

Great stuff!

What do you do when you propose the date and get ghosted, and what do you do when the date is set and you get flaked for whatever reason? Do you try again?
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Fri Nov 12, 2021 5:26 pm

Lema wrote: ↑
Fri Nov 12, 2021 2:56 pm
Great stuff!

What do you do when you propose the date and get ghosted, and what do you do when the date is set and you get flaked for whatever reason? Do you try again?
If I get ghosted. I wait a few days and send Andy's line:

"Hmmm I wasn't expecting you to ghost to be honest... any feedback so I know why? thx"

If she cancels I ask when she's free again.


This works like 1/20x.

You need to appreciate how normal ghosting and cancelling is.

It is by FAR the DEFAULT female response.

Like pretty much most girls will reject you, and then those who give their number... Majority will ghost... Then those who agree to meetup majority will cancel... Then those who show up maybe the slight majority won't hookup.


Just get used to it.


If you fail to internalize that reality this entire process will feel like torture and you'll be a guy who gets down about rejections.

I get flaked on so much I don't even care anymore.

And I don't care because I boost so much, match so much, get numbers so much, and get dates so much that any individual girl is irrelevant.

Play the numbers game.

I've gotten 800+ matches. Maybe messaged 600 of them and hooked up with 10. So you need to appreciate that your success rate will be in the low single digit %.


I did a podcast with Andy that talks about this subject. She be the next video he puts up, in less than a week or so.
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Wed Nov 17, 2021 2:47 am

Awesome guide bro!

Mind if I ask what outfit do you often wear on the dates? Do you have try to your best to match what you look like in your profile pics? (cap backward, tight fit black/white clothes, etc...) . I don't often wear the "new" douchey style as much at work (for comfortability reason), only wear for the pics. I'd imagine I feel a bit uncomfortable wearing them on the date because I don't feel it represents myself. May need to get used to wearing them perhaps.
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Wed Nov 17, 2021 5:50 am

diamondbackbike wrote: ↑
Wed Nov 17, 2021 2:47 am
Mind if I ask what outfit do you often wear on the dates? Do you have try to your best to match what you look like in your profile pics?
I do. Couldn't tell you if it makes a difference. But my line of thought is if she liked the guy in the pics then I better reflect that in real life.

So the attire in wear on dates is either exactly or very similar to the attire in my pics.

It's a nice ego boost sometimes cuz when I walk to the dates I'll get stared at by other girls. So it's like a reminder that I'm attractive girls enough to pull the girl I'm seeing. It's like a confidence boost.
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May need to get used to wearing them perhaps
Exactly this ya.

I dress pretty douchy now by habit. But yes it was uncomfortable at first because it didn't reflect how I saw myself. Felt like an act. but that goes away after awhile.
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diamondbackbike wrote: ↑
Wed Nov 17, 2021 2:47 am
I'd imagine I feel a bit uncomfortable wearing them on the date because I don't feel it represents myself. May need to get used to wearing them perhaps.
Take comfort in the fact you are not alone in feeling like this

I wrote one of my first style articles about this phenomenon
https://thehatfish.com/drastically-chan ... -at-first/

From my experience the no 1 thing you can do to get rid of that feeling is walk around in public and cold approach in your new style. Within a couple of weeks you dont feel like its 'not you' anymore.

Also important to keep wearing them when you hang out with friends.
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bumping this thread because i am trying to follow this now (should honestly be linked in @KillYourInnerLoser's guide and pinned to the forums somewhere), and this is the best supplement to the main tinder guide
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colgate wrote: ↑
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bumping this thread because i am trying to follow this now (should honestly be linked in @KillYourInnerLoser's guide and pinned to the forums somewhere), and this is the best supplement to the main tinder guide
Gracias.

It's funny reading it now that I know a bit more.

But I still wouldn't change it.

Key point in the guide is Hustle.
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I thought this was pinned tbf

Done now
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Thanks for sharing your experience. As I remember you aren't from a densely populated area. How did you communicate to girls so they come to you, even if they are slightly further away, like going 40mins with their car?
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Asst wrote: ↑
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Thanks for sharing your experience. As I remember you aren't from a densely populated area. How did you communicate to girls so they come to you, even if they are slightly further away, like going 40mins with their car?
I didn't do anything different.

Tbh most girls would drive at most 25 minutes. Seems like anything more than that was flake city.

I moved downtown for that reason actually.
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Manganiello wrote: ↑
Wed Jul 13, 2022 5:10 pm
Asst wrote: ↑
Wed Jul 13, 2022 5:00 pm
Thanks for sharing your experience. As I remember you aren't from a densely populated area. How did you communicate to girls so they come to you, even if they are slightly further away, like going 40mins with their car?
I didn't do anything different.

Tbh most girls would drive at most 25 minutes. Seems like anything more than that was flake city.

I moved downtown for that reason actually.
Did you ever go to the girls or they all came to you? Thinking about maybe going there on the first date since I'm quite good at having fun conversations with people/women.
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Did you ever go to the girls or they all came to you? Thinking about maybe going there on the first date since I'm quite good at having fun conversations with people/women
Nothing ever came out of that in terms of lays.

Keep in mind I was saying
"let's grab a drink, flirt and see what happens next."

Which pretty much meant sex.

And the girl would say. Let's meet at this place 20km away AFTER I had already suggested a place.

Girl wants to control the date, wants to avoid a lay, and just trying to waste your time at that point.


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I'd only ever consider doing that if the
1) the girl was super hot
2) I was trying to not smash on the first date.

Just go hard on tinder for a month and most of these questions will answer themselves.



It sounds so trivial. But logistics is one of the most important factors for you getting laid. You should be maximum 8 minutes walking distance from the venue of your first date to where your place.
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Best times to boost have consistently been 8-11pm. I would stagger boosts so I'd boost at 8:00, 9:20 and 10:30... Boosting the instant the other one ended didn't seem to net extra marches. Where as catching girls who log into tinder at different times really helped (8,9,10)
Boosts are now quite expensive, 6 pounds each if you get a pack of 10. They last 30min, but if you use two boosts you get 2h (so double the value). How have you adapted your boosting strategy from 2021?
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Manganiello wrote: ↑
Sun Oct 31, 2021 8:10 am
Best times to boost have consistently been 8-11pm. I would stagger boosts so I'd boost at 8:00, 9:20 and 10:30... Boosting the instant the other one ended didn't seem to net extra marches. Where as catching girls who log into tinder at different times really helped (8,9,10)
Boosts are now quite expensive, 6 pounds each if you get a pack of 10. They last 30min, but if you use two boosts you get 2h (so double the value). How have you adapted your boosting strategy from 2021?

Might need to get an account created in another country.


I've almost exclusively used bumble since Jan 2022. I have premium and don't need to boost at all on it.


I can fill my week up with dates from the leads I get from 10-20 minutes.

...

To be more specific tho, if I had to spend that much per boost. I literally would create an account using a different country. By installing emulators on my computer and buying a phone number from a different country.

I wouldn't deviate from the boosts.

Volume is critical for progressing fast and creating true abundance.
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Thu Aug 24, 2023 12:33 pm

Manganiello wrote: ↑
Thu Aug 24, 2023 12:08 pm
foducossy42 wrote: ↑
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Boosts are now quite expensive, 6 pounds each if you get a pack of 10. They last 30min, but if you use two boosts you get 2h (so double the value). How have you adapted your boosting strategy from 2021?

Might need to get an account created in another country.


I've almost exclusively used bumble since Jan 2022. I have premium and don't need to boost at all on it.


I can fill my week up with dates from the leads I get from 10-20 minutes.

...

To be more specific tho, if I had to spend that much per boost. I literally would create an account using a different country. By installing emulators on my computer and buying a phone number from a different country.

I wouldn't deviate from the boosts.

Volume is critical for progressing fast and creating true abundance.
Makes sense, thanks! I'll look into this. I have a spare phone and am happy to wipe it and start it afresh in a different country. Problem is I won't be able to use Tinder on my own personal phone right? I'd have to keep going back to the spare phone.
My log & learnings for online dates
My Telegram log for your daily dose of shitposts

Goals for 2024:
- Gym consistency
- Apply to jobs
- Threesome

2024 lay count: 9
^No goals for this, idgaf

Lifetime lay count: 35

In 2023 (June onwards) I achieved:
- Stylemaxxing & facial looksmaxxing
- Killer dating app pics
- 20 new lays
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