Alright my friend, time for some tough love. Strap in.
You’ve been lying to yourself, and it’s time to stop. You’re not broken. You’re not unfixable. You’re not incapable. There’s nothing wrong with you, you’ve just been feeding yourself this bullshit narrative that you’re somehow flawed, just because you’ve struggled in your dating life. You use your excuses, your low-self esteem, your limiting beliefs as an excuse to not get out there and do the work that I, and all of my coaching clients, have done.
You’re avoiding.
You think you’re the only guy on the planet who struggles with dating, sex, relationships, confidence? Hell no. The question is, are you going to let those limiting beliefs (bullshit excuses) hold you back, or are you going to man up and take control of your life, instead of being a perpetual victim?
The only thing holding you back is the crap you’ve been telling yourself.
Self-improvement isn’t about “fixing” you, because there’s nothing to fix. It’s about obliterating the BS excuses you’ve built up, and revealing the absolute LEGEND that’s been buried under layers of self-doubt, beating yourself up, and distracting yourself from going out there and doing the actual work. You’ve been coddling yourself and beating yourself up in equal measure, avoiding anything that makes you even slightly uncomfortable or nervous, running away from any potential “failure” or “rejection”, and it’s made you deeply unhappy. It’s time to face the truth.
You want more sex.
You want more money.
You want intimacy, relationships, happiness, more friends, more RESPECT from the people around you – maybe you even want some validation for once in your life. There are things you want, and you’re allowed to have them – you’ve just been telling yourself you can’t.
No, you can. You just haven’t really given it 110%, have you?
And I get it – I’ve been where you are. Overweight, depressed, making every excuse in the book as to why I can’t change. I looked in the mirror and I hated what I saw (truth be told, I avoided the mirror because I hated myself so much). I hated my life, I hated the universe, I hated where I was and I hated that nothing seemed to be getting any better.
I wallowed, for a long time. It didn’t help much. You know what did? Getting angry – really angry – and using that anger as fuel to take action. I went out and learned to hit on girls, I hit the gym, I made friends, I changed all the parts of myself I wasn’t happy with and I became someone who was proud to look in the mirror and see a warrior staring back at him. I’m not special; neither are any of my clients. If we can all do it, you sure as hell can too.
So, make some changes. Even just one little baby step to move forward right now – just do SOMETHING, ANYTHING, to move forward towards the life you wanna live. It’s never going to just get handed to you; you need to DECLARE to yourself that you want it, and then ASK for help from friends, from me, from other people going through the same thing, from forums – just ask for some damn help.
Surround yourself with people who refuse to let you settle for mediocrity. Cut out those who drag you down. Seek out those who challenge you, push you to be better, who want you to WIN. Embrace the discomfort; on the other side of discomfort is something beautiful.
If you want my help with this, I’m right here. And now’s the perfect time – sign up in the next 3 weeks and you’ll get a $2000 discount + an extra 4 weeks of coaching. So there’s no excuses – apply here.
So, what are you going to do? Keep making excuses, or are you going to step up and claim the life that’s waiting for you? The choice is yours. But remember this: every day you waste is a day you’ll never get back.
Time to get after it.
