One of my coaching clients was going out today to approach girls and build himself an amazing dating life. Before he went out, I sent him this quick voice message to motivate him. It wasn’t planned, polished, or scripted. It was just me, speaking from the heart.
I re-recorded it into a motivational speech for you – as a mp3 file just for you, to listen to anytime you need motivation. Download it here:
And here’s the transcript:
Hey man, I want you to think about this when you first start going out there to talk to girls today. I want you to think a little “selfishly” for a second.
We talk a lot about going out there and being nice to women — giving something to them, sharing love, bringing joy to other people. Giving them a good experience when you hit on them.
But you are a person too, man. You deserve some love as well.
So I want you to spend this day focusing on yourself. I want you to think about how beautiful it is that you’re giving yourself this gift of going out and talking to women, building an awesome dating life, and giving yourself some awesome experiences you’ll look back on fondly when you’re old and grey.
I want you to fantasize about how amazing it’s going to be when you go on your next date with a girl and you two have an incredible time together.
I want you to think about how proud you’ll feel — especially after all those moments of frustration, the times you wanted to quit, or when you felt hopeless. All the years of struggling when you were alone, before you came to this coaching. All those times you thought you were unattractive, not good enough, too short, too nerdy, too socially awkward.
Think about how vindicating it’s going to feel to have a woman sitting next to you on a date, a woman that you approached — a complete stranger — and now you’re sharing this beautiful experience together.
She didn’t know you. You didn’t know her.
You made this happen.
Think about how proud you’ll feel.
Think about how much we’ll all celebrate with you.
Think about how proud we are of you already.
And think about how wonderful it’ll be to start smashing those limiting beliefs — to realize, “Some women won’t like me — and that’s okay. But some women do like me.”
That’s beautiful. Your mission is to find the women who do like you.
So when you’re walking around today, man – I want you to remember how beautiful this is.
You’re not doing this to suffer or struggle (even though you might struggle sometimes – and that’s ok).
You’re not out there hurting yourself or punishing yourself.
You’re doing it for a reason — to give yourself something beautiful.
Every second you’re out there, you’re giving yourself an amazing gift: The gift of your future happiness — and the gift of being proud of yourself right now. Isn’t that so much better than sitting at home, feeling lonely, wishing you had a dating life?
At least you’re out there taking action. And that’s something to be proud of.
Think about how amazing it’ll be when you have your first success – when you go on that first real date.
Think about how proud you’ll be of yourself, and how grateful you’ll feel toward her.
The first girl who says yes — who goes on a date with you — you’ll want to thank her! You’ll be so damn happy and grateful. That’s exactly how I felt with the first girl who said yes to me.
Before that, I thought it was all theoretical. I didn’t think I was good enough.
My goal at the start was simple: I just wanted a few women to be nice to me. That was it.
I thought, “There’s no way I’ll ever get laid. That’s impossible. But if I can just have a couple of women be kind to me, I’ll be happy.”
That was literally my goal.
And I went way beyond that, of course — and you will too.
But I remember exactly how it felt at the start. When that first girl gave me her number — when the first girl went on a date with me — it was around the 30th approach I’d done.
Those first 30 approaches were rough, man. I was nervous. (You’re doing better than I did.)
But when that 30th girl said yes, I was just so grateful. I remember her perfectly — this cute Asian girl with nerdy glasses who had just moved to the country a few days earlier. She barely spoke English, and our first date was awkward — but it was real.
She taught me some dirty Chinese words, I taught her some dirty English ones, and we laughed. We saw each other again, and by the third date, we banged each other’s brains out. It was wild – surreal, amazing, beautiful, crazy. I felt like such a MAN, having made this happen, completely out of thin air.
I was unbelievably grateful.
That’s what you’re giving yourself, man — a gift.
I promise you: this is worth it. It might not feel like it right now, but I swear, from my own experience and from every coaching client I’ve worked with — it’s so worth it.
When you meet that first woman and she goes on a date with you, there’s no other feeling like it.
You feel like a man.
You feel proud.
Because you made it happen.
This wasn’t through luck. It wasn’t on the dating apps. It was real. It was you. That’s something most people never do. So I’m already proud of you, brother. I’m proud of you for just trying.
Go out there and give your future self a gift. Because future you will look back and say,
“I’m so grateful I didn’t quit.”
Keep going out there, man.
We’re all proud of you already.
Go out there and have some wins.
You deserve it.
If you (yes, you reading this right now) needed this message too — take it.
This is your reminder that you’re not behind, not broken, and not hopeless.
Every woman you talk to, every time you face a fear — you’re giving yourself a gift.
You’re not doing it just to “get laid.” This is more than just pussy, and you know it. You’re doing it to grow, to evolve, to become a man, and to be PROUD of the reflection that stares back at you in the mirror.
Now get out there and go say hi.
– Andy
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