What if everything you want is actually possible?
Imagine – just for a second – that the sex life you desire is genuinely within your reach. Close your eyes (yes, actually close your eyes) and picture yourself feeling confident, having as many women as you desire, feeling connected to them, adding to their lives as they add to yours. Imagine your dating life flowing effortlessly, easily, without much effort at all. Imagine people congratulating you, telling you they can see how far you’ve come, and that they’re proud of you – and inspired by you.
Imagine how good that’d feel… imagine how much freer you might feel. Would you feel lighter? Happier? Like a weight has lifted off your shoulders?
What if this could actually be your reality? (Spoiler: it can.)
For a lot of you, the notion of you actually making it seems far-fetched. Sure, you read my blog, you watch my YouTube vids, you see examples of other guys succeeding and winning and having tons of amazing sexual experiences with awesome women – and all while being honest and authentic. But as you read & listen, you add a caveat: “Sure, they can do all that. But I can’t.” You tell yourself you’re different.
You believe the guys who’ve gone on to build amazing sex lives, have 3somes, build businesses, be happy – are somehow just “lucky”. Like they’re the select few, the naturally gifted, or the lucky ones, or those born into favourable circumstances. You tell yourself again, meekly, “They can win, but not me.”
I used to be exactly the same when I first started working on my sex and dating life. I was full of doubts (I still am – I just don’t take doubts seriously anymore), insecurities, and a nagging voice that constantly whispered, “You’re not good enough. No way you can do this.” I was a member of a forum called the GoodLookingLoser forums, and I was so utterly convinced I wasn’t “cool” enough to fit in there, that I honestly thought the admins would ban me for being too much of a loser.
There was a day I went to login to the website, and couldn’t – and my immediate thought was “I knew it! I knew they’d ban me. I fucking knew it.” Turns out I’d just mistyped my password… But that shows you how convinced I was that I wasn’t good enough to improve myself and have a decent amount of sex. I really believed I was just some loser.
So I get it. I get how you feel. The thing is, I was so utterly wrong about “not being good enough”, even though I was so utterly convinced I was right. And you can ask yourself: “Is it possible that maybe, just maybe, I’m wrong too about my own doubts and limiting beliefs? Could I change? Could I succeed? Could I have women in my bed, friends in my phone, money in my bank account? Could I one day maybe… be proud of myself?“
And I’m telling you, if you just push through those doubts, ignore the limits your mind wants to serve up to you, and go take some damn action – you truly have no idea what you’re capable of accomplishing. I have gone so far beyond what I ever thought possible, and life is a daily gift now and has been for years. I’ve almost forgotten what it felt like to wake up and hate myself; I’ve gotten so used to being happy with the reflection I see when I look in the mirror. You can have that too.
And all it takes is a little dose of humility – a little bit of “give yourself permission to suck”. Stop thinking you have to be so damn perfect with any of this damn stuff, and just get out of the damn house and go talk to a damn girl (have I said ‘damn’ enough yet?)
Go start that damn business, even if you have no idea what you’re doing (I didn’t at the start).
Go to the damn gym, even if you’re nervous as hell and worried everyone will judge you (that’s how I felt).
Go to the damn bar and talk to some strangers, even if you’re terrified they’ll reject you and laugh at you (they won’t, I promise).
The world is this beautiful playground, an amazing place full of infinite opportunities, and you’re missing out on all of that for every second you sit at home trying to convince yourself you can’t do it, or it’s “too late” for you, or that you’re a hopeless case. Don’t you want to be happy?
Don’t you want to try?
Don’t you want to live?
Take extreme ownership – take control of your life – and make it happen. You’re allowed whatever the hell you want in life (and much more than that!), but it’ll ONLY happen if you do the first baby step that’s required. The universe doesn’t ask much of you; it just asks that you start. You’ll figure out the rest after that.
The life you envision – the one you saw when you closed your eyes as the start of this article – is right there for you to grab. You’re allowed that abundance, that sex, that fulfilment, that connectedness, that confidence. It’s not some distant dream only reserved for others. It’s a tangible reality that you can create.
So, bloody well create it.
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