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Andy answers a listener’s questions about struggling to trust his girlfriend, being too suspicious and insecure, and how to learn to open up and be real.
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You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought:
https://kyil-extra.com/recommendations#luxury
It’s You and Me (you’re both on the same team):
https://killyourinnerloser.com/you-and-me/
Honesty is an Ideal You Work Towards:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/honesty-is-an-ideal/
Immy’s Thoughts on Honesty:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/what-honesty-looks-like-in-a-relationship/
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Hey!
Been following your site for quite some time now. I’ve also written some questions here.
My question would be: once you see how the dating market works and you DON’T agree with it, you DON’T like it, how do you cope?
I’ve never been cheated on , HOWEVED, I’ve had multiple chances where girls want to cheat with ME. Bare in mind, I’m not a chad. I’m 24 years old, I’m still a virgin (but not really planning on losing it – I have pretty grim views on sex due to all of the cheating and promiscuity/animalism I’ve seen in college, so maybe i’ll do it one day, maybe not. I’m definitely not gay :D)
I’d just want one decent average looking girl, raise a family and not worry about not “being sexual enough”, or that there are multiple better options on tinder etc. I know it’s not that black and white, since I’ve HAD chances – I’ve just rejected most girls because they don’t have similar goals (they want to have sex, I want a proper relationship, someone who helps with my goals and vice versa. I’m not that interested in sex).
I’ve felt hopeless for years just because other people seem so much more… sex and lust based than I am. BOTH men and women.7
Incels – want to be sexually wanted and want to have sex with normal girls, but can’t because of different reasons.
normal girls – want to have sex with hot guys, will often cheat if a “better option” comes along.
me – want one cute girl, raise a family, die.
Well, It’s not really a question now that I think about it – just a rant on society and being hopeless
Hey mate – that’s a huge, super in-depth bunch of questions I can’t possibly help you with in a comment. If you’d actually like them answered, hit me up for a coaching call and we’ll dive deep. Or join my Patreon – $50 means you can ask me questions (like the ones above) and I’ll answer them either in a podcast or in a private message.
-Andy