Most guys massively overcomplicate “text game.”
They think there’s some secret formula — the perfect words to type — that will magically make a girl fall in love with them.
But the truth? Texting isn’t the point. The entire purpose of texting is simply to set up the date. That’s it. Full stop.
Step 1: Stop Obsessing Over Texting
There’s an entire industry built on “text game” — courses, YouTube channels, eBooks — all trying to convince you that if you just learn the right tricks, you’ll win women over.
But you don’t need tricks. You don’t need clever one-liners.
All you need to do is this:
- Get her number.
- Send a simple “Hey, it’s Andy — was nice meeting you.”
- Ask her out.
That’s it. That’s the whole process.
If she doesn’t reply to the first message? Totally normal. Especially if you met her quickly in person. Don’t take it personally — it happens to everyone.
Step 2: Go Straight to Logistics
As soon as she replies, move the conversation straight to setting up the date. Something like:
“I’d love to grab a coffee with you. I’m free Friday evening or Saturday afternoon — which works better for you?”
This is where most guys trip up — they think they have to “build rapport” or “keep her interested” over text. But you don’t get to know someone over text.
You get to know them in person: hearing her laugh, making eye contact, touching, flirting, kissing.
So stop texting and start planning.
Step 3: Be the Leader
Give her options and lead.
Don’t say: “What do you want to do?”
Do say: “Let’s meet at this café — Friday or Saturday works for me. Which day is good for you?”
If she’s into it, she’ll make it happen. If she’s being flaky (“I’ll let you know” or “I’m busy”), don’t chase. Follow up once or twice over a couple of weeks, and if it’s still vague — move on. People who want to meet you make it easy.
Step 4: Strike While the Iron’s Hot
One of the biggest mistakes guys make is waiting too long.
Try to meet within three days of getting her number.
The more time that passes, the more likely she is to forget about you, lose interest, or just get distracted by someone else. Keep the momentum alive by striking while the energy and excitement are still there.
Step 5: Keep Texting Simple (or Skip It Entirely)
There’s no “correct” texting frequency between setting up the date and meeting her.
- If you two vibe and enjoy talking, text or voice message.
- If not, don’t. Just confirm the date the night before (“Hey, are we still good for tomorrow?”) and send a message the day of (“Excited to see you tonight!”).
You can even skip texting completely and just call her to set up the date. Hell, you can even ask her out on the spot when you first meet — no texting needed at all.
Bonus: After the Date
Texting after a date is simple too:
- If you liked her: “I had a great time tonight. I really liked [specific thing]. Can’t wait to see you again.”
- If you didn’t feel chemistry: “You’re awesome and I enjoyed meeting you, but I didn’t feel a romantic connection. Wishing you the best.”
And if she doesn’t text you back after the date? Don’t overanalyze every message. Delete the chat from your phone and move forward. Texting isn’t what made or broke the connection — what happened in person is.
The Golden Rule: She’s Just a Person
The guys who succeed with women don’t treat texting like some weird science experiment. They treat women like people.
Text her the same way you’d text a friend — like a normal human being. Stop trying to “game” her. Stop being weird.
If you’re interested? Say so.
If you want to see her? Ask her out.
If she’s not interested? Move on.
That’s the whole secret. Simplicity wins.
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