…Or are you letting yourself get worked up, stressed and “concerned”, as you let yourself obsess about scary statistics and doomsday scenarios?
Stop reading that stuff; right now. Stop following the news & obsessing over every new little thing that comes out; it isn’t helping you. Stop focusing on the external world/society at large, and start focusing on the things that are pertinent to you.
I know there’s lots of uncertainty, doubt, and maybe a little (or a lot) of fear right now. But those are things you cannot change – you’re only going to drive yourself crazy if you focus on the things that are out of your control. You’ll start feeling helpless, like there’s no point working on your goals right now; and that is the worst place you can be. Speaking from experience, you do not want to throw away the next few months doing nothing, just because you’re a little bit scared.
Instead, focus on things which are within your dominion; the things you can control. If you’re stuck at home with tonnes of extra free time, then good. Use that as an opportunity to plan out your goals, to really cement them into place, to figure out how you’re going to get there. Come up with a daily action plan and start working on it right fucking now.
You can’t go to the gym – fine, workout at home. Start with this home workout routine – you don’t even need any weights. Use all this free time to get your diet on track too – this is the perfect time to lose weight. By the time all this corona crap is over and life returns to normal, you’ll be in the perfect position to capitalise on it and start really getting laid a tonne.

With girls, you can still get laid if you work 10x as hard as you had to before. I’m getting a tonne more flakes, a tonne more girls wanting to just talk, etc – so I’m hitting on 10x as many girls as I normally would. One of my fuckbuddies doesn’t want to come out of self-isolation to see me, and most girls I’m organising meetups with are flaking last minute. Who cares, I’ve just tried 10x harder. I’ve gotten laid with 3 new girls in the last 2 weeks – here’s one I wrote about. If you already have a fuckbuddy or two, just hunker down with them for a while and use that as your source for sex/intimacy.
Just carry on like you normally would, message a bunch of girls on Tinder like you normally would, and then do a little FaceTime date with them for 20 minutes. Then invite them to come over to your place and have a drink. Or do what I’m doing – just meet them in a public place somewhere and walk them straight back to your apartment. I’ve done that with 5 new girls in the last 2 weeks. Just because the outside world is going crazy, doesn’t mean you have to.
However, I do understand I have a lot of experience and confidence with getting laid (likely more than you), so getting sex is naturally going to be a little easier for me right now. But do not use that as an excuse not to try. Do not let yourself say, “Oh, Andy already knows how to get laid, so of course he can get laid right now. But for me, it’s impossible.” No. Right now sucks, so just try 10 times harder. Here’s some help:

And after working your little ass off if you’re still finding a tonne of girls aren’t meeting up with you from Tinder/Hinge right now – good. This is a bloody great opportunity for you to work on your looks (start with my Tinder guide), buy a proper DSLR camera (they’re cheap if you buy second-hand – here’s the one I have) and start learning to use it. Practice taking selfies of yourself, get really great with it, and start improving your Tinder photos, so that when things return to normal, you’ll be ready to capitalise on it.
This is also the perfect time to work on your mental health, tackle those issues you’ve been ignoring, and start working towards being a happier, more well-rounded person. If you want to know where to start, start with the book, “You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought” – it changed my life when I read it. Then read “The Slight Edge” – it’s the method I use to achieve all my goals. Read those two books and you’ll be lightyears ahead of most other people; especially right now when most people are just sitting around being bored and doing nothing useful with their time.
And if your goal is to set up your own business or make money online, don’t see this as a dip in the market; see it as an opportunity to build up your business so you’re ready for when things kick off. You want to start preparing now during the downturn, so you can be ready to profit during the inevitable upswing.
All of this right now can just be seen as a challenge, so rise up to it. Life just turned the difficulty setting to Hard for a bit, so now you need to play harder.
When times are rough, FIGHT BACK.
Oh, and just incase nobody else is telling you this right now:
Everything will be ok. I promise.
Drop a comment below and let me know how you’re doing. Seriously – say hi. Don’t be a stranger.
Update: I’ve since recorded a podcast covering the same topic:

Hey Andy, excellent post as always. I’ve followed your Tinder advice and have had so much more success because of it.
Odd question, but there’s a lot of girls that are just promoting their premium Snapchat/Onlyfans/etc. on Tinder. Do you still hit on them when you match and have you had any success with those or do you just unmatch them?
Thanks again for all your posts.
I personally don’t even match those girls (I don’t swipe on them). However, remember I’m in a position where I’ve had more than my fill of sex, so I’m happy to be REALLY picky (I’m probably too fussy). If you have less experience, my advice will always be to just do whatever it takes to get laid (including having a bit of your time wasted):
https://killyourinnerloser.com/newbies-should-do-whatever-it-takes-to-get-laid/
Again, it’ll be entirely up to you. Do whatever YOU want to do. If you’re happy to try messaging all those girls, then go for it. If you’re happy with your sex life and want to save yourself some time/frustration, don’t match ’em.
-Andy
David from Argentina. Got my weights at home so I’m going hard at it again…now that my broken hand has healed. Still have to go to work as I am an “essential worker” but is less hours and i’m not as incarcerated as everyone here so life is good. The police is chasing people who go out so maah bitch can’t come home and I’m horny as fuckk. When I get free they gon see haha.Cheers.
Awesome man, crush your home workouts.
That’s absolutely nuts about your police. I just googled it – 6 months minimum jail sentence if you’re under quarantine and you leave the house. Holy fucking shit. The world has lost its mind.
Sounds like you’re in a good place though man. As soon as all this lockdown crap is over, people like you are going to be ready to really kick some serious ass.
-Andy
Hey Andy, I’m from Argentina too and I ‘slightly’ disagree with you.
I was crushing AA really well, starting to go out to bars and being social for the first time in my life after years of isolation… and then this fucking crap happens…
Anyways, here’s the part I disagree with.
After lockdown ends, we still going to have this ‘social distancing’ thing (AND FOR SEVERAL MONTHS)… which means:
1) bars and night clubs are closed.
2) social distancing means you can’t get close to strangers (more 1.5 meters away), great, how the hell do I keep beating AA or doing daygame?
3) is it really a good time to go out and talk to girls during the day right now? (after lockdown). I don’t think so. deaths and infections are ramping up. I don’t expect good reactions at all, I can even get in SERIOUS trouble. Which somewhat makes sense… it’s normal paranoia from people (after all… people are dying bro, this is no joke)
4) even if I got good reactions… I live with my mom. I can accidently catch this shit (remember is super contagious, even with asymptomatic) and ups, I killed my mom.
5) not only that, girls would be concerned that a stranger is talking to them… and I’m sure they don’t want to infect they relatives too.
Not trying to be negative… it’s just that I see these problems and I’m like “what the hell… I can’t do anything”.
and no, I don’t do online game, I despise it, I prefer day + social + night game.
Everything you just wrote is you complaining about a bunch of problems, because you’re hoping I’ll say: “Yeah you’re right mate. It’s ok for you to just sit around doing nothing”. I’m not going to give you permission to be lazy. Start looking for solutions, not problems.
Rewrite everything you just wrote but instead this time look for SOLUTIONS.
1) Cool, do what I do & my clients do – go for a walk and just talk. Or go sit in a park. Or sit on a bench somewhere. Hell, have a FaceTime/Skype date. Again, start looking for SOLUTIONS.
2) Is it illegal for you to hit on strangers? I have 2 clients right now who are still hitting on girls, despite the lockdown crap. If you don’t want to do that, fine – then install Tinder/Hinge and at least start talking to some girls (you don’t even have to meet up with them). Put your AA on hold and tell yourself you’ll deal with it once the lockdown stuff is over – but you should still be at least talking to some girls so you’re not completely throwing away all your progress. You should also be working out at home, focusing on your goals – everything I wrote in this article.
3) “I don’t expect good reactions at all” You haven’t even tried. I’m not interested in theories or speculation. Again, if you’re SCARED of hitting on girls, fine. At least be honest about it though – say “I am scared.).
“People are dying” – in 2009 we had a pandemic just like this one that nobody freaked out about. The CDC estimated 284,000 – 575,000 people died from Swine Flu in 2009 and there was no lockdown. 700 million – 1.4 billion estimated people were infected. Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2009_swine_flu_pandemic
Again, if you’re scared, say that. It’s fine to be scared. Be honest with yourself about it though.
4) That’s your decision to make, and if you’re concerned about your mother, that’s reasonable. Again, install Tinder/hinge and talk to girls. Or workout at home. Or lose fat. etc etc.
5) Again, I’m not interested in theorising. I have gotten laid with 4 new girls in the last 2 weeks, including a 3some. So much for “Girls are going to be too afraid to talk to anyone.” No.
Even if you decide “I don’t want to go outside, and I don’t want to get laid, and I don’t want to install Tinder” – Fine. Read everything else I wrote in the article: You can workout. Lose weight. Focus on your future goals. Start earning some money online with a side hustle. Read some philosophy books or some self-help books. There’s a million things you could be doing, but instead you say this:
‘ I’m like “what the hell… I can’t do anything”.’
This is your issue. No matter what I write to you, you’re going to present me with even more “evidence” as to why you can’t do anything right now, and why you have to just sit at home alone doing nothing to improve yourself.
You’re either going to let this lockdown stuff beat you down, or you’re going to man up and deal with it.
-Andy
heeeeey I’m not that improductive. I just see almost impossible to do daygame / nightgame / socialgame in this situation.
I bought resistance bands and dumbells and I been working out 3 times a week like always. I’m also working on my main job (from home) plus working on a related proyect at night.
2) it’s not illegal to hit on strangers, but there’s a really weird vibe going on, like, if you get close to them they are like ‘hey, social distance, don’t get close’
I’m not talking about lockdown either… I’m talking about SOCIAL DISTANCE which is being drilled everyday into our heads.
when I said ‘what the hell, I can’t do anything’ I just meant related to girls :).
“I can’t do anything with girls” is very different to “I can’t do anything” 😉 I went hard on you because you made it sound like you thought you couldn’t do anything at all.
If you want to put girls aside for a few months – do that. Just kick ass with those dumbbells, bust ass with your other projects, and make the most of all this extra free time we all have.
Also, where in Argentina are you from? My sister lived there for 2 years, in Buenos Aires (but she alaso stayed in Río Negro, Santa Fe, and I think somewhere else too).
-Andy
I will answer here because for some reason the reply button doesn’t appear on your last message.
you actually coached me a few months ago (i’m the one that sent you the pdf with ‘several goals’ and didn’t know where to focus)
I’m just very frustrated because I was starting to do real progress on AA and social life.
I can’t wait till things get back to normal.
Nice man, yeah I remember you.
AA/social life isn’t going anywhere. Once all this crap is over, you’ll be able to absolutely crush your AA. Use this time now to plan out how you’re going to do it, so as soon as things go back to normal, you’ll be immediately ready to start.
-Andy
Hey David, I’m from Argentina too. Are you from CABA?
Naaah bro. I’m from Laferrere. The wild wild west, we on sum thug shit ya know? If a bitch doesn’t kill me it gon’ be a bullet. Haha joke ( or nah?)
great reminder andy!
working on a little online service business now.. need to get financially stable soon so after corona , i can work after those other goals…
Awesome man, hope you kick some serious ass.
-Andy