…Or are you letting yourself get worked up, stressed and “concerned”, as you let yourself obsess about scary statistics and doomsday scenarios?
Stop reading that stuff; right now. Stop following the news & obsessing over every new little thing that comes out; it isn’t helping you. Stop focusing on the external world/society at large, and start focusing on the things that are pertinent to you.
I know there’s lots of uncertainty, doubt, and maybe a little (or a lot) of fear right now. But those are things you cannot change – you’re only going to drive yourself crazy if you focus on the things that are out of your control. You’ll start feeling helpless, like there’s no point working on your goals right now; and that is the worst place you can be. Speaking from experience, you do not want to throw away the next few months doing nothing, just because you’re a little bit scared.
Instead, focus on things which are within your dominion; the things you can control. If you’re stuck at home with tonnes of extra free time, then good. Use that as an opportunity to plan out your goals, to really cement them into place, to figure out how you’re going to get there. Come up with a daily action plan and start working on it right fucking now.
You can’t go to the gym – fine, workout at home. Start with this home workout routine – you don’t even need any weights. Use all this free time to get your diet on track too – this is the perfect time to lose weight. By the time all this corona crap is over and life returns to normal, you’ll be in the perfect position to capitalise on it and start really getting laid a tonne.
With girls, you can still get laid if you work 10x as hard as you had to before. I’m getting a tonne more flakes, a tonne more girls wanting to just talk, etc – so I’m hitting on 10x as many girls as I normally would. One of my fuckbuddies doesn’t want to come out of self-isolation to see me, and most girls I’m organising meetups with are flaking last minute. Who cares, I’ve just tried 10x harder. I’ve gotten laid with 3 new girls in the last 2 weeks – here’s one I wrote about. If you already have a fuckbuddy or two, just hunker down with them for a while and use that as your source for sex/intimacy.
Just carry on like you normally would, message a bunch of girls on Tinder like you normally would, and then do a little FaceTime date with them for 20 minutes. Then invite them to come over to your place and have a drink. Or do what I’m doing – just meet them in a public place somewhere and walk them straight back to your apartment. I’ve done that with 5 new girls in the last 2 weeks. Just because the outside world is going crazy, doesn’t mean you have to.
However, I do understand I have a lot of experience and confidence with getting laid (likely more than you), so getting sex is naturally going to be a little easier for me right now. But do not use that as an excuse not to try. Do not let yourself say, “Oh, Andy already knows how to get laid, so of course he can get laid right now. But for me, it’s impossible.” No. Right now sucks, so just try 10 times harder. Here’s some help:
And after working your little ass off if you’re still finding a tonne of girls aren’t meeting up with you from Tinder/Hinge right now – good. This is a bloody great opportunity for you to work on your looks (start with my Tinder guide), buy a proper DSLR camera (they’re cheap if you buy second-hand – here’s the one I have) and start learning to use it. Practice taking selfies of yourself, get really great with it, and start improving your Tinder photos, so that when things return to normal, you’ll be ready to capitalise on it.
This is also the perfect time to work on your mental health, tackle those issues you’ve been ignoring, and start working towards being a happier, more well-rounded person. If you want to know where to start, start with the book, “You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought” – it changed my life when I read it. Then read “The Slight Edge” – it’s the method I use to achieve all my goals. Read those two books and you’ll be lightyears ahead of most other people; especially right now when most people are just sitting around being bored and doing nothing useful with their time.
And if your goal is to set up your own business or make money online, don’t see this as a dip in the market; see it as an opportunity to build up your business so you’re ready for when things kick off. You want to start preparing now during the downturn, so you can be ready to profit during the inevitable upswing.
All of this right now can just be seen as a challenge, so rise up to it. Life just turned the difficulty setting to Hard for a bit, so now you need to play harder.
When times are rough, FIGHT BACK.
Oh, and just incase nobody else is telling you this right now:
Everything will be ok. I promise.
Drop a comment below and let me know how you’re doing. Seriously – say hi. Don’t be a stranger.
Update: I’ve since recorded a podcast covering the same topic: