Getting Laid a Lot Means Sometimes You’ll Accidentally be “Creepy”

Most guys who are starting out do everything they can to avoid the seemingly-terrifying label of “being creepy”. Dudes feel like their entire world will come crashing down if any girl – or anyone in general – perceives them to be “creepy” or “weird”.

I have news for you: If you plan on meeting & dating/having sex with a lot of women, you’ll need to hit on a large number of women (playing the numbers game). Along the way, you might accidentally creep out a girl here or there (even if you try not to). After all, the very act of talking to girls you don’t know and trying to have sex with them isn’t exactly socially normal. Therefore, you might creep someone out if your goal is to have a lot of sex/meet a lot of people.

But let’s back up, and let’s first define the word creepy: “Creepy is you doing something I personally think is weird or wrong or inappropriate, according to my own subjective opinions and preferences.” You see, creepy is pretty damn subjective. It’s a value judgement someone makes on you/your behaviour; it depends a hell of a lot on that person’s preferences, current mood, relationship status, personal hang-ups, how their life is going at that point in time, etc.

In the context of talking to women, “creepy” usually means that particular woman just isn’t interested in you (unless you do something really stupid like lick your lips whilst saying, “Mmm girl, Daddy wanna eat you all up, buttercup.”) Hell, even then, some girls would be into that.

And that’s my point. What seems “creepy” to one girl is “confident” and “spontaneous” and “charming” to another. An old roommate of mine went a step further and said: “I don’t think it’s possible to get laid without ever creeping a single girl out, because there’s such a broad range of things that could potentially creep any one girl out.”

People have preferences, likes and dislikes – you’re going to gel with some girls but not with others. Some girls will love your personality and your traits, your manner of talking, the way you look… while others will think you’re the creepiest motherfucker in the world. And that’s perfectly fine.

I message one girl on Tinder & ask if she’s into BDSM and wants to give it a go; she calls me a massive creep/pervert. I copy-paste the exact same message to the next girl, who says, “Oh my god I love your forwardness. I’m very curious to explore that actually.” Nothing changed except one girl was into me/what I was offering, and one girl was not.

Here’s a perfect example. My Tinder bio is, “When I was little, girls hated when I pulled their hair. Funny how some things change.”

I ended up having sex with this girl, by the way – including a 3some with another one of my fuckbuddies. The story is here.

So one girl thinks I’m a massive creep, but another loves me for it and has sex with me. Exact same bio, two very different reactions.

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A Caveat…

Obviously if you’re getting called “creepy” a lot, it may be your appearance. If you’re overweight or dress horribly or you smell really bad & you then walk up to girls and tell them they’re sexy – you’ll get a lot of “you’re creeping me out”.

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If you’re hitting on girls in person, you’re also going to have to get over your fear of having other people hear your conversations. It’s inevitable other people will see you chatting up girls out on the street if you do it enough times. Some of those bystanders may even think you’re weird for doing it – they’re usually just insanely jealous of you. But in all my approaches, and all my friends approaches, nobody ever had the balls to actually walk up to any one of us and say, “You’re being a creep”. So let the haters hate from afar, sitting there watching you and stewing, wishing they had the courage to do what you’re man enough to do.

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I Used to Worry About the “Creepy” Label too

I used to be fucking terrified of being “creepy”, especially as I used to do a lot of my approaches on one particular university campus. I had to talk to a lot of girls before I got over that fear, and I realised I was fabricating this wild story that if I ever got called creepy, my whole world would fall apart. Over time I learned to let go of that irrational fear and just get on with my goal: sleeping with girls & enjoying my life.

Yep, I still get called creepy to this day – I just am not bothered by it anymore. A woman who calls you creepy probably isn’t all that happy with her life – happy people, generally speaking, don’t insult strangers they barely know.

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The Takeaway

If you truly want to meet a bunch of women and get laid, date them, etc – it’ll usually be up to you to initiate and make the moves. It’s inevitable that sometimes girls (or bystanders/other people) might think you’re “creepy” for doing that; and that’s ok.

I give you permission to go out there and risk being called creepy.

Update 26th July 2019:

Even girls get called creepy sometimes, so don’t feel like you’re alone. Here’s a conversation my girlfriend had with another girl (my girlfriend is in grey):

So if even my sweet, kind, loving, gentle, adorable and very nice girlfriend can be called creepy, it’s ok if you get called creepy once or twice, here or there. Nothing bad happens. I promise.

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