I was having a conversation with one of my coaching clients, who’s been scared to hit on girls. He finally worked up the courage to do a few approaches today, and he was BLOWN AWAY by how much more MASCULINE he felt afterwards. Here’s what I said to him – and what I’ll say to you, if you’re afraid to approach:
It’s funny how we have all these fears around approaching.
“What if she rejects me?”
“What if people see me hitting on her?”
“What if I get in trouble?”
“What if I don’t know what to say?”
“What if she thinks I’m creepy?”
“What if…?”
Then when we actually walk up to her and say hi, everything works out, she’s usually super grateful, we feel MASCULINE and POWERFUL for having done it, and we walk away a slightly happier, more confident man.
Approaching is such a cheat code for masculine self-improvement. It’s not this big, terrifying, scary thing. She’s just a cute girl, she’s not that scary – just go up and say hi.
(And if you’re too nervous to do it, that’s ok – just use my approach anxiety program.)
You got this.
