Cut the NPC Crap: Stop Telling Yourself “I Can’t”

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You are more powerful than you think you are.

Guys often reach out to me for help. They tell me much they hate their current circumstances, how they’d give anything to change things and live the life they truly want, how much they’re suffering in their current life, how serious they are about changing it… and then they say the magical words: “I can’t afford coaching”.

It’s an excuse I hear over and over and over again. You’re desperate to live the life you’ve always wanted, you know you can’t go on the way things are going right now, you’re ready to change, but something holds you back… And that something is NOT that you don’t have enough money.

It isn’t that you can’t afford it; if I told you I was giving away a brand new Ferrari for $7,000, you’d be able to find the money. We both know you would.

So it’s something else. It’s fear. It’s worry you won’t do a good job. It’s concern you’ll fail. It’s fear you’ll look like an idiot, or you won’t make the most of your time in the coaching program; that you’ll somehow waste the time and get nothing out of it.

In all the years I’ve been doing this, basically nobody has felt like they wasted their time in the coaching and got nothing out of it. It’s zero people.

And I haven’t seen anyone regret deciding to make the change and actually live the life they want to live – not a single person has said, “Gee, I really regret going all-in with my goals.” 

Not a single one.

I want to tell you about someone who’s the opposite of an excuse-maker; a guy who hit me up for coaching a couple of days ago.

This guy said, and maybe you can relate to this, “I have no money”.

“I can’t afford coaching”.

But instead of letting that be the reason (excuse) he continued down the path of a life full of complacency and mediocrity, he decided to say, “I WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES”.

He asked for a payment plan, said he’d slowly pay it back, a few hundred bucks a month over the next year or two. He’ll have to move a few expenses around, not buy expensive food/drinks for a while, save money wherever he can. He’s serious about being the best man he can be, reaching his potential, so he’s doing whatever he needs to do to make it work.

This is what COMMITMENT to your own excellence looks like. THIS is what going all-in and actually building an elite life looks like.

It’s finding SOLUTIONS instead of obsessing about problems. It’s looking for ways to WIN, instead of saying, “It can’t be done”.

Any of you could do what he’s done – you could be in the coaching program RIGHT NOW, slowly paying it off month by month. You could give yourself the gift of the life you’ve always wanted; the solution is right there. It’s literally guaranteed if you just commit. It’s pay-to-win.

But you sit there and tell yourself, “I can’t”.

No, tell the truth. Eliminate the phrase “I can’t”, and replace it with the actual reality of the situation: “I’m choosing not to”. 

Take ownership. Stop making excuses.

This applies to more than just coaching – you tell yourself, “I can’t lose weight”.

“I can’t hit on women I don’t know”.

“I can’t get matches on Tinder”.

“I can’t get laid”.

“I can’t seem to make friends”.

“I can’t seem to get my shit together”.

“I can’t move out of my parents house”.

No, you could. You could do all those things.

The question is, are you going to?

ARE YOU GOING TO GO ALL IN? 

Everything I’ve achieved, I had to go ALL-IN. All the sex, overcoming depression, losing weight, having 3somes, being in a loving relationship with my amazing girlfriend Immy for 5 years, getting good at photography, becoming a BDSM connoisseur, building this community, building my coaching – all of that required me to go ALL-IN.

How many of you sit there feeling hopeless, feeling like you’ll never do what I’ve done, feeling like you don’t deserve the life you really want. Feeling like maybe it’s impossible. It’s not impossible; you’ve just been holding back, half-assing your progress, spinning your wheels and not really committing to it because you’re scared to go all-in. 

I get it. 

You’re afraid of failure. 

You’re afraid you’re secretly not good enough, and that committing to your goals would somehow expose that.

You’re afraid of making a “wrong” decision.

You’re afraid of committing to something. 

I get that you’re afraid – that’s what I’m here for.

It’s literally what I’m here for. To hold your hand and tell you everything’s gonna be alright. This whole community is here for you. It’s time for you to go all-in.

It’s time for you to get off that butt of yours and do the thing you’re scared of. If that thing you’re afraid of is talking to girls, then go outside and just say hello to one woman, today. Just say hi.

If that thing is losing weight, just go to the gym and walk on the treadmill for 5 minutes, then go home. Just 5 minutes.

If that thing is starting your own business, just make a 1 minute YouTube video and upload it right now. Just 1 video.

If that thing is signing up for my coaching, just send me an enquiry form and come on a free call with me to talk about it, figure out your options, etc. Just send a simple enquiry.

But don’t sit there and say “I can’t”.

Yes, you can. In the 3rd Matrix movie when Agent Smith asks Neo why he keeps fighting, why he hangs in there, why he keeps persevering, Neo responds with: “I chose to.”

So, are you going to be like Neo, choosing to do the things that are hard, that are scary, that require courage? Or are you going to plug yourself back into the Matrix, into a boring life of complacency, dissatisfaction, emptiness, never getting the things you want?

Don’t choose to say “I can’t”. You deserve better.

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