Most men spend their entire lives afraid of saying what they really want.
They play it safe (I call it “playing not to lose” – here’s what we want to do instead), follow rules, read pickup manuals, and try to “build comfort” before they show their true intentions.
But all that fear does is avoid going for what you really want; you avoid winning.
One of my coaching clients decided to do the exact opposite. He dropped every rule he’d ever learned and started being radically honest with women.
Literally saying things like:
“I’d love to exchange orgasms with you — is that something you’re up for?”
(Yes, you can literally be this autistically-honest). Here’s what happens when you do:
1. Honesty Builds Trust (Even When She Doesn’t Want the Same Thing)
When my client started being this completely honest and upfront, women didn’t hate him. They respected him.
Sure, some said “no.” But many said, “it’s not what I’m looking for, but thank you for being upfront.” Because honesty isn’t offensive – it’s refreshing. When you tell the truth, people can finally trust you – even when they don’t want the same thing.
2. Rejection Isn’t Painful – Self-Rejection Is
You guys know my feelings on “rejection”. Nobody can “reject” you without your consent; all she did was say no to your offer, which you then framed as her “rejecting me”. No, she just wasn’t looking for the same thing you were.
When you play it safe – when you don’t go for what you really want – you’re essentially rejecting yourself. You hold back from asking for what you want, because you’re terrified of hearing the word “no”.
My client flipped that mindset. He’d approach 60 women in a single day, saying exactly what he wanted — with politeness and confidence. And he learned something profound:
“Rejection doesn’t hurt. Hiding what you want does.”
He stopped seeing rejection as failure, or a mistake, or her “disrespecting him”. He adopted the mindset that every “no” was just one step closer to the next “yes.”
3. Pickup Rules Can Become a Prison
Before joining coaching, my client spent tens of thousands of dollars on other pickup bootcamps.
They taught him to hide his desire, to “build seven hours of comfort,” and never mention sex too early.
It was all manipulation — pretending to be something he wasn’t.
He later realised:
“Those rules were just a cage. They kept me scared, hesitant, and fake.”
When he ditched the scripts and started being real, women responded to him — not his tactics.
4. Women Know What You Want (So Stop Pretending)
Every woman already knows you’re attracted to her (especially when you’re hitting on her).
You don’t need to “trick” her into sex.
You need to show her that you’re confident enough to say it out loud.
My client discovered that when you’re clear and respectful, women relax. The tension disappears because there’s no guessing game.
Some will say “no.” Some will say “yes.”
But every interaction becomes cleaner, simpler, and more authentic.
5. Radical Honesty Is Freedom
Being upfront doesn’t just improve your dating life — it changes how you move through the world.
My client became more confident, peaceful, and disciplined. He worked out consistently, meal-prepped daily, and stopped wasting time pretending to be someone he wasn’t.
He summed it up perfectly:
“The more honest I got, the more peaceful I felt.”
That’s the real reward of radical honesty — peace.
The Takeaway
You don’t need to be perfect, or alpha, or smooth.
You just need to be real.
Say what you want.
Be kind.
Take “rejection” gracefully.
Most men will spend their lives hiding.
You can be the one who speaks his truth – and gets everything he wants because of it.
Watch the interview with him here:
And if you want to change your life like he has, come join the coaching program:
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