No Problem is Insoluble in All Conceivable Circumstances

If you read my entire website, watch all my YT vids and listen to all of my podcasts… If you only ever take away ONE thing, I want it to be this:

Everything is ok. Everything is going to be ok.

No problem – no hurdle, no challenge, no obstacle – is so insurmountable that you can’t eventually figure out a way to improve it. As I say all the time, every problem has a solution.

I know how it feels to have limiting beliefs. I know how it feels to be so hopelessly consumed by your insecurities and doubts that you’re utterly convinced you’ll never ever make it. I know how it feels to think “What is even the point, I should probably just give up. Believe me, I know.

But even in those moments where you’re convinced it’s over for you – you’re too old, too short, too far gone, too socially-awkward, too underserving, too not-quite-good-enough… I promise you, there’s still something you can do. There is always something you can do to move forward just one tiny, little, seemingly-insignificant baby step.

The problem is usually one of humility; you’ve likely been telling yourself “Yeah but what’s the point of doing something so small? It won’t make enough of a difference.” Your ego is telling you you should be better, you should be able to do more, you should be able to take big leaps instead of having to take these tiny little pathetic baby steps.

But if those baby steps are all you’re able to do right now – if that’s all you have to give – then accept that reality instead of fighting against it. Instead of saying “I should do more”, just close your mouth, stop arguing and do something. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step – a baby step. It’s not one giant leap. It’s not some huge big glamorous jump forward. It’s a thousand tiny, seemingly-insignificant little baby steps, all added up until we have something amazing, something huge.

Everything I have achieved – all the 3somes, BDSM & wild sex adventures, losing weight, my amazing 5-year relationship with Immy, coaching people & changing lives, overcoming depression, finding peace and love, creating over 1500+ pieces of content – all of it was the result of humbling myself enough to just take one tiny little baby step, then one more little baby step, then another little baby step. My successes are the result of just putting one foot in front of the other, over and over again, even when that voice in my head was screaming, “This isn’t enough! I need to do more! These baby steps are pathetic!” I quieted that voice as best I could, and just told myself, “Yeah these steps are small, but they’ll add up. I just have to keep showing up and never quit.”

So take ownership over your life – refuse to see yourself as a victim of circumstance, a victim of other people, a victim of life. Grab life by the horns, hunt for solutions (doesn’t even have to be good solutions initially, just any tiny little baby step to get started – you can course-correct as you go). Refuse to believe that anything is hopeless, refuse to believe there’s ever a situation where you can’t do something (even if that something is making peace with the thing and accepting it). You have the power to live an incredible life, but the first step is taking action, and the second step is not giving up.

You got this.

P.S. The title of this article comes from my favourite short story of all time – The Last Question by Isaak Asimov. I highly recommend you check it out; seriously, the ending will blow your mind. It’s the best short story I’ve ever read, and I’d even go so far as to say it’s the best story I’ve ever read.

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