When this client first joined coaching, he’d only approached eight women in his entire life.
He was nervous, overthinking everything, and terrified of rejection.
Two months later, he was telling women “You’re sexy” and going on five dates in two weeks.
So what changed?
It wasn’t “pickup lines.” It wasn’t tricks or tactics.
It was radical honesty.
Honesty is the Shortcut
He stopped pretending to be “cool.”
He stopped overanalyzing texts, body language, and imaginary rules.
He dropped the “game” stuff.
Instead, he started walking up to women and saying exactly what he felt:
“You’re sexy.”
“Can I take you out?”
“Can I kiss you?”
That’s it.
No script. No faking confidence. No need for smoothness. Just the truth – and it worked.
Because women don’t want a perfect man.
They want a real man — someone who’s brave enough to show up as himself.
Rejection Isn’t Failure
At first, he was scared. His hands shook. His voice wavered.
But he did it anyway.
He got “rejected” (you guys know my thoughts on rejection) — again and again — and learned what every confident man eventually discovers:
Rejection doesn’t kill you. Hiding does.
Every time you walk away from a woman without saying how you feel, you’re rejecting yourself.
Every time you say “not today,” you’re reinforcing the belief that fear runs your life.
But the second you speak your truth — even if it’s messy — you grow.
You build courage.
You build peace.
You start to actually like yourself.
Brotherhood Makes It Easier
He didn’t do it alone.
He surrounded himself with men who were just as hungry for growth — guys who said,
“Let’s push each other.”
“Let’s go talk to girls today.”
“Let’s be honest, no matter how uncomfortable it is.”
That’s the magic of brotherhood: when one man takes action, the rest rise with him.
It’s easier to face fear when you’re not doing it solo.
It’s easier to keep going when someone’s got your back.
Stop Waiting. Start Living.
Most guys sit on the sidelines for years, waiting for the perfect moment —
the perfect mindset, the perfect look, the perfect line.
That moment never comes.
Confidence doesn’t appear out of nowhere.
It’s built through courage — through the small, scary moments where you act even though you’re afraid.
So stop waiting.
Go talk to her.
Tell her she’s sexy.
Not because you’re guaranteed a yes — but because that’s the man you want to be:
Honest. Brave. Alive.
Watch the full interview with him here:
And if you’re ready to stop hiding and start living — this is your wake-up call.
Come join the brotherhood inside The Abundance Collective — the men’s coaching community where we turn fear into freedom.
