Doing What Scares Me
Hoping this will inspire you motherfuckas and show you it’s ok to be ABSOLUTELY FREAKING TERRIFIED of some of your goals – that’s part of this journey.
Something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time is move towards my dream coaching situation: I’d work with 1 or 2 people at a time, for a full year each – 12 months of coaching. I’ve been saying I’d probably charge $100,000 USD for that and just go ALL IN with them, building them the most insanely elite life.
That’d be such an amazing way of coaching – think how much I could help someone change their life in an entire YEAR. Could probably get them 10 or 20 years worth of progress in just 1 year. Plus that’d obviously MORE than pay all my bills – I wouldn’t need anything else. Every single bit of money I’d earn elsewhere (eg group coaching, ebooks I might sell, etc) would be a bonus. True abundance.
Today I was shitting my pants but I did it anyway – I’ve taken the first step towards this. I put my 1-on-1 coaching price up to $50,000 USD for 6 months. The thought of that absolutely terrifies me, I have a billion doubts about it (“What if people say that’s an insane price, what if nobody ever signs up for the rest of my life, what if everybody calls me greedy and stops watching my content and stops changing their life and I end up old and alone and I die alone?”)
But I did it anyway, because it’s what I want to do – even if it terrifies me. We don’t build elite lives by playing it safe – we build elite lives by running towards the things that fucking terrify us.
“If your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough.”
– Muhammad Ali
I want you all to reply to this email with THE ONE GOAL you want that TERRIFIES you the most. Your biggest fear (that’s also something you really really really want). If it’s a fear a lot of people have, I’ll record a podcast or a vid answering it and giving you some of the first initial steps to take. Starting right now and in the beginning of 2023, let’s start those first few baby steps towards making it happen. I’m here for you, the rest of the community is here for you – let’s get you the things you want.
No more holding back.
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Terrified of approaching girls in places I frequent on a semi-regular basis because I’m afraid of what people will think of me. Plus, I’ve watched some guys who harp on things like advanced game, social circle, being socially calibrated and not weird. All that’s in my head. I’m also terrified to go all in on investing. I want to make money and put my funds into projects, but I’m scared I’ll lose all my money. Lastly, I’m fucking terrified of really diving deep into who I am and putting aside the old me to embrace the new me.
What if people don’t like who I am?
Worried about what people will think of you: I’ve covered a bit here:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/other-people-seeing-you-hit-on-girls/
All the things that are in your head – do your best to let go of all of that, and just give yourself permission to suck. Here’s my thoughts on a lot of “advanced game”:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/pickup-artists-are-theatrical-wizards/
And:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/youve-angered-the-gods/
Terrified of going all-in with investing; why do you have to go all-in? Again, give yourself permission to suck, just start by investing a tiny bit, and go one step at a time. Read this:
http://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge
Really diving deep into who you are: Yeah I get that fear. Again, just go one step at a time; you aren’t completely erasing the “old you” all at once. Just go one tiny little baby step each day.
The theme here is: GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO SUCK, and GO ONE BABY STEP AT A TIME.
As for “What if people don’t like who I am?” Read this book, “I Need Your Love: Is That True?”
https://kyil-extra.com/recommendations/#i-need-your-love-is-that-true-by-byron-katie
-Andy