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If you’ve followed my stuff for a while, you know I’m a pretty kinky guy – I like BDSM, fetishes, roleplays, ropes and restraints, kinky photoshoots, 3somes and the like. My sexual bucketlist still has hundreds of things on it I’m working on ticking off – I’m insatiable.

I wasn’t always this way though; I used to be a shy, nice little boy. I dabbled in BDSM a couple of times – blindfolds, spanking a bit, and a vibrator. I was definitely keen to try more.

Around the same time, I started getting frustrated with my lack of first-date-bangs; it usually took me until the 3rd date to have sex with girls (mostly because I was being a pussy and wasn’t inviting them back to my apartment). I decided to try the exact opposite of what I was doing – I asked myself, “What’s the most sexual message I could send on Tinder, without being completely crass?” I spent ages thinking, and then it hit me: “Something BDSM-related! Girls love that 50 Shades of Grey shit.” I sat down and crafted this:

“Do you have experience with being submissive/BDSM, or is it something you’d like to explore?”

I was fucking terrified to actually send it to girls though; I was convinced they were going to call the police on me for being a sex fiend, or tell me, “Go fuck yourself” or call me a creepy weirdo. I thought they’d freak out at me and tell me I was being disgusting. It took me so much effort to send that first message to the first girl; I literally had to pace back and forward in my apartment for an hour, neurotically debating what the possible consequences might be, whether Tinder could track my location and have the police called on me, etc.

In the end, I just closed my eyes, hit send, and then put my phone away in a drawer so I wouldn’t have to see what she’d replied. (Yes, I really did this). A couple of hours later, I sheepishly checked my message, terrified of what she might have written… And was surprised to see she responded positively. She didn’t yell at me, or tell me to get fucked… she was actually into the idea.

I worked up the courage to keep sending this message to every new girl I matched with, and 98% of them responded extremely positively – the worst responses I got were along the lines of, “No thanks.”

The girl in the following story is the first girl I had sex with while using this new message template. The story below was originally posted on the Good Looking Loser Forums on Apr 2018. Any parts in blue are direct quotes from the old post I initially wrote.


A few days ago I decided to try something different – going straight for the BDSM/50 shades of grey stuff right off the bat when messaging girls on online dating. On OkCupid/POF/Tinder, I’m messaging every girl like this:
hey, you’re hot. I’m andy. im looking for something very specific on here
[the interested ones will say “what are you looking for?”]
Do you have much experience with being submissive/BDSM, or is it something you’re open to exploring?

God damn, guys – the response has been overwhelmingly positive. I got laid from it within a few days of starting it (more about that down below) and already have a tonne more numbers and dates set up for next week. 2 of them are virgins who haven’t even kissed anyone but said this is their biggest fantasy. I’ve had 2 girls just immediately call me “Daddy” without me even prompting them. Quite a few of them immediately start talking dirty/sending nudes. And this isn’t just Tinder – in fact, OkCupid and POF seem to have WAY more girls who are down for this than Tinder does.

I don’t know why I didn’t just do this shit from the start, instead of my nice guy “hey you’re cute. i’m andy” bullshit. The benefit of this BDSM talk is that any girls who meet you are 100% absolutely down to fuck and they’re naturally submissive.

I’m also making it even more obvious by texting them a few hours before a meetup, “wear pretty panties for me tonight.”


Lay:
So I matched this asian chick on Tinder. Cute, but if I’m honest a little chubby. Right off the bat she’s down to bang, here’s the chat:

We organised to meet up a few nights later. I texted her a few hours before, “Make sure you wear pretty panties for me” and she replied “Ok I will :)” Met her in a bar to make sure she wasn’t a catfish, chatted for 15 minutes and made out with her, then took her back to mine.

She was DTF and easy to fuck but clearly very inexperienced. She was also incredibly scared the whole time, she kept saying “Please don’t hurt me… I’m not just saying that, I really don’t want this to hurt… Please…” Even taking it really easy on her (I didn’t use any ropes, toys, whips, etc and I was actually pretty gentle) she was clearly out of her depth and scared the whole time. But definitely enjoying herself.

I asked her for a pic but she said she wasn’t comfortable anyone else seeing it, so I’m not going to share it here.

After I nutted, we cuddled for a bit and she said I was only her second lay, and she couldn’t believe she did something this crazy. She said she was terrified of me the entire time, from the moment we met until we finished fucking. I said “Why did you stay then?” and she said “I wanted to see what you would do… It was such a rush.”


I’m going to start doing this BDSM talk with girls I cold approach, too. Once I get their number I’ll text the same shit – “it was cool meeting you today, sexy. i’m looking for something very specific though.” etc.

The thing that’s cool as fuck about all this is that I am clearly NOT super hot. I don’t have muscle, I’m not lean yet and my pics kinda suck. I can’t even begin to imagine how much wilder this will be in a year or two when I’m better looking and buffer.


One of my 2020 Tinder pics.

I was so blown away by the fact I actually had sex with a girl while being this direct; and the fact we had sex within 15 minutes of meeting. (Of course, now I do that with every girl I meet). Being this direct was the impetus for my move towards being a more honest, upfront and direct person with girls. When you’re this bloody direct and literally tell girls you want to tie them up, something awesome happens: They match your honesty by being 100% honest with you from that moment forward. No games, no manipulation, no lies; after all, why would they lie to someone who literally just stated exactly what he wanted, upfront, without mincing his words?

These days days I ask 100% of the girls I match with if they’re up for trying BDSM. It’s how I’ve had the majority of my lays. Here’s my current Tinder profile to see the pics I’m using.

You’re welcome to steal my line above if you’d like to find some girls to have a bit of kinky sex with. You don’t have to be a BDSM expert – just follow my blindfold guide; it’ll get you 95% of the way there. You’ll probably find, like me, if you’re this upfront about your intentions from the very start, you’ll naturally screen in girls who prefer honest communication with no manipulation or games. Basically, the opposite of pickup artists.

I’ll also be releasing a BDSM guide in future, so stay tuned. In the mean time, if you have any questions about trying this yourself – drop a comment below and ask.


Yo, Andy here. I’m an Aussie guy who went from a depressed, suicidal loser to a guy who gets laid regularly, has 3somes & BDSM sex, crushes weights at the gym & loves his life. I killed my inner loser. It's my mission to get you to kill your inner loser too.