UPDATE: I’m also including Immy’s profile here (we meet women together for 3somes).
I’ve had a ton of success with the below pics (some stories/pics here), so this profile absolutely works – and works well. These days my girlfriend Immy manages and runs all my Tinder/online dating profiles for me, so it’s completely hands-off for me; absolutely awesome.
I started out having NO idea what the hell I was doing, but figured it out as I went along. Read my full transformation story here.
I’m going to keep this updated regularly with my current online dating pics/bio. Your online dating profiles should be in a constant process of being improved over time, regularly updating it with better pics that show off your improving physique, your more interesting hobbies, etc. Over time you’ll figure out what works & what doesn’t work. Don’t let your profile (or anything in your life) stagnate.
Each time my online dating profile goes through a major improvement, I’ll post the new profile on here and move the old one to the bottom of this page.
- Current Profile
- Bio
- Marketing Yourself
- Hinge
- Distance and Age Settings
- Tinder Gold/Boosts/Superlikes
- What I Say
- The Type of Sex I Have
- Old Profiles
Current Profile (as of 2024):
I’ll actually show you Immy’s profile first, as we meet a lot of women through her account:
My profile:
- Sexy photo with my girlfriend Immy: We shot a photo with my camera and fancy lighting equipment, with both of us giving off sexy/dominant vibes. She’s wearing a blindfold, and this photo just screams sex appeal. Screens very hard for girls who want something sexual (Immy and I have 3somes with the girls we meet.)
Note: We’ve had the account banned from using this photo a couple times (Immy has just made a new account for me each time). So if you use super-sexual photos similar to this one, be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned. - BDSM photo (2 girls by my feet wearing lingerie, with a collar and chain, me holding the two chains): Again, shows what I’m all about. Super sexual, shows I have sex and know what I’m doing in the bedroom – girls love that.
- Me in public walking: Just a chill photo of me well-dressed and looking slick. To do a photo like this where it looks like you’re caught “mid-walk”, just walk towards the camera, holding down the shutter button on the camera to rapid-fire hundreds of photos. Then repeat this a few more times, walking toward the camera and rapid-firing photos. Eventually one of them will look really “natural” and “casual” like this.
- Photo at night, looking really serious: Most of my photos give off that intense, “dominant” vibe – this one adds to that. Nice pretty lights in the background too.
- Me on my podcast (talking into my microphone): Showing off one of my hobbies/career. Girls always tell me “It’s so cool you have a podcast!” – I’ve even had a few girls come on the podcast.
- Selfie with me and 2 friends: Just to show I’m a social dude – I always recommend you include at least one photo of you with other people, to show you’re not a loner.
- Me walking in a park in Autumn: Nice photo of me outside to mix things up a bit and add a bit of variety to my profile.
- Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
- Newspaper “weirdo” photo: A silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side. Girls tell me they like it.
My profile is obviously extremely sexual. You do NOT need to be this sexual if you’re nervous or just getting started. If you are new to online dating/getting laid, just follow my comprehensive Tinder guide that goes into detail of the photos to take, how to improve your looks, etc.
The reason I’m so sexual in my photos is I got to a point where I was getting friendzoned a bit, and I’d go on dates wondering if this girl was actually going to sleep with me or not. I got sick of spending an hour or two on a date, only to have her say, “No thanks, I don’t want to come back to your apartment tonight.” I decided to start screening with the BDSM/sexual photos you see above, and boy did it work.
I got a few less matches from being so sexual, but the girls that did match with me, were really into me. Since I make it so abundantly clear with my pictures and my texts that I’m looking for casual BDSM sex, girls know what they’re signing up for – so there’s less hassle, girls never play games with me, and sex is guaranteed if I meet a girl in person.
Bio:
If you’re a tall guy, it’s worth putting your height in your bio somewhere; a tonne of girls will only match with tall guys, especially if they’re tall themselves. If you’re 5ft10/5ft11, buy height-increasing shoes (or inserts). Many of them can make you 3 inches taller. Then put your height as 6ft in your bio. If you’re shorter than 5ft10, just leave your height out.
The line about blindfolds tells girls what I’m looking for (sex), so I never match with any girls who are hunting for boyfriends or “nice guys”.
Hinge:
My Hinge profile (again, run by my girlfriend Immy) uses the first 6 pics from my Tinder profile. Everything is pretty much the same as on Tinder.
The “Prompts” are:
You can pay for a “Preferred Membership” and then spam 100-200 girls a day with the same copy-paste line as I’ll show you below.
Marketing Yourself:
Your tinder profile is basically a sales pitch. You’re selling not only yourself, but THE BEST VERSION of yourself.
So no matter who you are in real life, Tinder/other dating apps offer you a chance to market yourself as something more. If you’re a bit of a loner in real life, it doesn’t even remotely matter when it comes to getting laid online. Just give the appearance of being a cool, chilled guy and that’s what people will assume you are.
Remember, girls spend hundreds/thousands of hours practicing putting on makeup, dressing themselves to show off their best assets, taking thousands (millions?) of selfies until they get the perfect angle/lighting/pose/etc. Girls are natural experts at marketing, so you should be too. Put as much time and effort into marketing yourself on Tinder/other apps as you can.
In late 2017/early 2018, I looked like absolutely shit (skinny-fat, you couldn’t see what little muscle I had). Here’s a photo I took back then:
I looked pretty shit, right? (Thank god I look better now – these days I look like the photo on the right). But even though I used to look shit, I had good Tinder photos at the time – I had to do a lot to market myself as a whole lot sexier than the crappy picture above. In my pics, I looked great. That’s all that really matters. And I’ve gotten laid a tonne (here’s a few fun stories/pics). You need to do the same – market yourself in the best possible light. Sell yourself.
Another thing you need to think about is how you’re marketing your intentions. I’m purely going for sex/friends with benefits. In no way shape or form and I advertising myself as a boyfriend. I’m selling “Fuckboy Andy”.
It’s a combination of things – my cheeky bio about a firm hand. My not-so-subtle BDSM pictures. The fact I don’t look like a “nice guy” in any of my pics. My confident/masculine body language in every pic. And of course the very-sexual opening line I send to girls (more on that below).
If you don’t feel confident enough to be super sexual, I’d still recommend being as sexy/confident/masculine as you possibly can (and making it something you try very hard to improve over time). Just because you want a girlfriend doesn’t mean you should advertise yourself as “Mr Safe” or “Boyfriend Material”. In fact, you’ll do much better at finding a girlfriend if you’re as masculine and sexual as possible (see: Aggressive Game Only Gets Sluts?)
Remember, all of this is a gradual gradual process of improving. You improve your pics, improve how aggressive/ruthless you are, improve your standards for girls you bang, improve how quickly you ask for a number, improve what you say to girls, improve your confidence, etc. You don’t have to be perfect at the start.
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Distance and Age Settings:
I have my age on Tinder set to 25 and then I use Tinder Gold to hide my age so it doesn’t show up (I’m actually in my 30’s as of writing this). Setting it to 25 or younger means you’ll match with far more 18-25 year olds (I don’t generally like girls older than 25). If a girl is 25 or under, when she signs up to Tinder the default search range for her will only show 18-25yo guys. Most girls don’t even think to change it, so if your age is over 25 you simply won’t be shown to younger girls.
Set your age to 25 (you may have to make a new Facebook account with age set to 25), then pay for Tinder Gold and hide your age:
If any girls ask your age, tell them your real age – don’t lie. Honesty is always the best policy; we’re not here to deceive or manipulate anyone.
I have my distance set quite close (10km radius) as I’ve found girls who live further away are harder to meet up with. But you can go for a wider radius if there’s less women in your area.
Tinder Gold/Boosts/Superlikes:
Tinder Gold: You should absolutely pay for Tinder Gold. Unfortunately as a man you won’t have any sort of success on Tinder without it (unless you’re a celeb/really really really good looking), so it’s a given. The ability to see which girls have liked you is mandatory. You’ll get 5 free superlikes a week, and if you have a decent profile, at least 1 of those superlikes will result in a match. You get a free boost each month as a nice extra bonus.
Boosts: Buy 1 or 2 a week and use them strategically, they’re bloody brilliant. When Immy runs my account, she uses 2 a week – late on a Friday and Saturday night. I’ve found the best time to boost is between 10pm and 2am Friday/Saturday. Sunday during the morning/afternoon is decent too.
Bare in mind I have a very sexual Tinder profile, especially with the BDSM pic as my main pic. So I have massive success on a Friday/Sat night, when girls are tipsy/lonely/horny. Use a boost and you’ll get at least 5 phone numbers per night within the space of 30 minutes (assuming you have good/sexual pics). This is why I advocate all guys have a sexual profile – you don’t want to be Mr Safe and Boring when all the girls are tipsy and horny late at night.
Superlikes: I don’t buy any extra ones; the 5 free each week are enough for me. But if you want to buy more, go for it.
What I Say:
I screen very hard for girls who are DTF and into trying BDSM. Immy copy-pastes this message to every woman when she runs my accounts:
Me: “Hey, you’re sexy. I’m Andy. I’m looking for something very specific on here.”
Her: “What’s that?”
Me: “Have experience with being submissive/BDSM, or is it something you’d like to explore?”
[If she’s down, I immediately say]: “Cool, we should grab a drink. What’s your number?”
[If she hesitates, or says “I want to talk for a bit first”, or says “I do want to explore it, but only with the right person” I don’t continue any further. My aim is to get off the app & meet people in real life; I don’t enjoy texting messaging for days/weeks.]
Once I have her number, I will take over the texting. Here’s what I usually go with:
Me: “Hey sexy, it’s Andy from Tinder. How’s your day going?”
Her: [Whatever she says]
Me: “When you think of BDSM, what comes to mind for you?”
Her: [Whatever she says]
Me: “Cool. Here’s a few BDSM examples from photoshoots I’ve done recently.” [I send her a few of my artsy BDSM photos.]
Me: “Free tomorrow night at 6pm? Let’s grab that drink.”
Note: If you’re not into BDSM or haven’t ever tried it, don’t just start immediately yanking girls’ hair and going crazy. Start slow with something like this.
The Type of Sex We Have
On my dates Immy and I do whatever we want (sometimes hanging in a park, sometimes coffee dates, occasionally dates at night in a bar, sometimes Geocaching), and that carries through to the bedroom as well. Sometimes we’ll hangout on my couch and talk for a while, especially if we find her interesting or we’re deep in the middle of an interesting conversation. (I’m not always in a rush to bang these days; I’m usually more laid-back and relaxed, because I’ve already had my fill of sex).
During those more-relaxed dates, Immy and I like to have fun teasing girls. While we’re just having a normal conversation on my couch, I or Immy might start playing with her tits over her clothes, or rubbing her pussy through her shorts, making her moan. We’ll carry on the conversation, even as she closes her eyes and moans, and then we’ll tease her by saying, “What’s going on? I’m trying to have a conversation here but for some weird reason you just seem to be unable to talk properly? Is something distracting you?” She’ll moan and be unable to really talk, our fingers on her pussy distracting her too much, leaving her only able to let out a weak, “You’re both touching my pussy…”
We’ll keep teasing her and mocking her (in a friendly way), “We’re barely touching you at all though, and you seem so horny and desperate already? We’re just trying to talk to you but girls are all the same, you have a one-track-mind and can’t think about anything other than sex.” I or Immy always say this with a big smile on our face.
She’ll get more and more turned on, less and less able to talk, until finally one of us will say, “Do you want me to stop talking and just fuck you?” All girls say yes & even beg at this point, but we’ll give them a cheeky smile and whisper in their ear, “No. we’re going to keep teasing you for a while. This is too much fun.” They love it.
In case it’s not clear, I am a bit of a horny mo’fucka, and Immy’s very open too. We like rough sex, gentle sex, kinky sex, vanilla sex, toys, massage oil, fetishes and fantasies, roleplays and “scenes” (where you act out a particular sex act or roleplay you’ve discussed with a girl beforehand). I love me dominating the girl, as well as getting her to take the lead (you’ll still have to direct her & teach her how to take the lead – it doesn’t come naturally to 99% of girls). Read my Sexual Bucketlist article – I’m into basically every single thing on that list (and a whole lot more).
I’m also a big fan of toys, blindfolds, restraints and vibrators (especially this massive vibrator) – I really like to mix it up. There’s nothing more fun (for you, and girls) than blindfolding her and spending ages teasing her, touching her all over, whispering dirty stuff in her ear as you play with her body. Girls love not knowing what’s about to happen, and a blindfold is a shortcut to that. If you don’t have a blindfold, just grab a suit tie, or a tea towel – anything that’ll cover her eyes.
I talk more about the type of sex I have here.
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Old Profiles:
Profile I used up until April 2022:
- Body photo: A professional photoshoot of my body in the most perfect lighting I could manage. Screens very hard for girls who want something sexual/casual – it’s very clear I’m not “looking for a nice girlfriend.”
- BDSM photo (holding a whip): Again, shows what I’m all about. It’s classy, it shows girls if they meet me we’ll be having sex, sex, and more sex.
- Me with a cute girl: My previous set of pics didn’t have anyone else in them (I was all alone in all of the pics), so I grabbed one of my girls for a quick photoshoot. Having a cute girl in your pics telegraphs that you’re a guy who’s comfortable with chicks (and probably gets laid).
- BDSM Photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo a couple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned.
- Another BDSM photo: This time me in a suit holding up handcuffs. Chicks seem to dig the suit; I’ve had positive comments on it.
- Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
- Cat Selfie: Chicks love cats.
- Newspaper “weirdo” photo: A silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side. Girls tell me they like it.
- Pink wig: Same thing; silly photoshoot showing off my humour.
Profile I used up until May 2020:
- Body photo: A professional photoshoot of my body in the most perfect lighting I could manage. Screens very hard for girls who want something sexual/casual – it’s very clear I’m not “looking for a nice girlfriend.”
- BDSM Photoshoot with Girl: Again, shows what I’m all about. It’s classy, it shows girls if they meet me I’ll be somewhat professional and know what I’m doing.
- Cat Selfie: Chicks love cats.
- BDSM Photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo multiple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned.
- Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
- Green Tanktop: Shows off my tatts and a bit of my body. I’m in the process of losing weight; will reshoot this when I’m lean.
- Plushies Having Sex: Completely silly and sexual at the same time. That’s me in a nutshell.
- Newspaper “weirdo” photo: Another silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side. Girls tell me they like it.
Profile I used up until Feb 2020
- BDSM Photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo multiple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned.
- Selfie: Looking cocky. Most of the time I don’t recommend selfies (it’s hard to look good in them), but if you can pull it off, use it.
- Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
- Green Tanktop: Shows off my tatts and a bit of my body. I’m in the process of losing weight; will reshoot this when I’m lean.
- BDSM Photoshoot with Girl: Again, shows what I’m all about. It’s classy, it shows girls if they meet me I’ll be somewhat professional and know what I’m doing.
- Me with a Cute Girl: My previous set of pics didn’t have anyone else in them (I was all alone in all of the pics), so I grabbed one of my girls for a quick photoshoot. Having a cute girl in your pics telegraphs that you’re a guy who’s comfortable with chicks (and probably gets laid).
- Plushies Having Sex: Completely silly and sexual at the same time. That’s me in a nutshell.
- Cat Selfie: About time I have an animal photo in my profile.
- Pink wig: Girls love this one. It’s a crazy photoshoot I did a few years back, with teddy bears having a tea party and plenty of confetti flying around. Shows off a silly side of me, which is a nice counterbalance to the first two photos. I plan to keep this one.
Profile I used up until August 2019
- Brown jacket: Fairly casual shot showing off my chilled, relaxed side. I’ve lost recently and my face looks a lot better in this pic than all the rest (need to re-shoot all the other pics/use new ones where I look lean).
- Green tanktop: Shows off my tatts and a bit of my body. I’m in the process of losing weight; will reshoot this when I’m lean.
- Gym: A somewhat-goofy photo of me in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. At some point I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
- Me with a cute girl: My previous set of pics didn’t have anyone else in them (I was all alone in all of the pics), so I grabbed one of my girls for a quick photoshoot. Having a cute girl in your pics telegraphs that you’re a guy who’s comfortable with chicks (and probably gets laid).
- Camera around my neck: Decent outdoors photo showing I’m a photographer. Plan on replacing this soon, as it was taken years ago before I started going to the gym.
- Bar: Girls occasionally comment on this because I’m in a bar wearing headphones – they ask if I’m a DJ (I’m not). Definitely replacing this; it’s not a great photo (bad lighting, nobody else in the picture with me, etc).
- Pink wig: Girls love this one. It’s a crazy photoshoot I did a few years back, with teddy bears having a tea party and plenty of confetti flying around. Shows off a silly side of me, which is a nice counterbalance to the first two photos. I plan to keep this one.
- Modelling photoshoot: Showing off my photography hobby, girls love this one. I plan to keep this one.f
- BDSM photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo multiple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you get banned.
Photos I plan on adding: I’ll get my second tatt then take better photos. I’m currently cutting (losing weight), so I’ll redo quite a few of these photos when I’m lean.
Remember: Constant process of improving/upgrading over time.
Profile I used up before that
- BDSM photo: My main photo. This catches the eye of a lot of girls, especially late at night on a Thursday/Friday/Saturday night when they’re drunk and a little horny. It also instantly telegraphs what I’m about, so there’s absolutely no doubt. There’s a tonne of girls who sit around daydreaming about 50 Shades of Grey, being tied up and spanked, being roughed up, etc. I can’t tell you how many girls I bang who say, “As soon as I saw your BDSM picture I knew I had to finally explore this side of myself.” I plan to always keep this as my main photo. Update: A few people have tried using this same BDSM photo and had their account banned. I’ve never had an issue with it, but be warned you may want to forgo the BDSM pic if you’re worried about being banned.
- Gym: A somewhat-goofy photo of me in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. At some point I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
- Modelling photo: A decent street shot of me trying to look cool. I’ll definitely replace this with a better one.
- Pink wig: Girls love this one. It’s a crazy photoshoot I did a few years back, with teddy bears having a tea party and plenty of confetti flying around. Shows off a silly side of me, which is a nice counterbalance to the first two photos. I plan to keep this one.
- Douchebag bathroom selfie: Again, showing I have a body and can dominate girls. I’ll replace this with a better photo soon, especially as I’m now leaner and have a tattoo (girls love tatts).
- Outdoors with camera: Decent outdoors photo showing I’m a photographer. Plan on replacing this soon, as it was taken years ago before I started going to the gym.
- Bar: Girls occasionally comment on this because I’m in a bar wearing headphones – they ask if I’m a DJ (I’m not). Definitely replacing this; it’s not a great photo.
- Newspaper “weirdo” photo: Another silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side just like the pink wig photo. Girls dig it. I’ll keep this one.
There’s clearly a lot of improvements to be made; my photos aren’t even remotely perfect. As I’ll go into detail further below, you should be constantly looking for ways to improve your photos to get more (and hotter) matches over time.
Photos I plan on adding: I’m getting a second tattoo in the next few months and want to show off my two tattoos in some way. A tonne of girls love tatts. I’ll take a better gym photo. I’ll steal somebody’s dog and take a photo with it (for some reason girls have this obsession with dogs on Tinder/other apps). I’ll take a photo with mates or girls – every single one of my photos shows only me, so I sorta look like a bit of a loner. I’ll take a photo of me rockclimbing, as it’s an interesting hobby and will show off my physique.
Remember: Constant process of improving/upgrading over time.
And the profile before that:
Here were my thoughts behind the photos/bio, from a conversation I had with a few friends:
I look like a cool, interesting guy with a tonne of different hobbies. Each photo shows off a different hobby. The pink wig one is random as fuck. I have one showing me with a camera. One of me modelling. One of bdsm. One of me in a bar, girls ask “are you a DJ?” One of me weightlifting. I have “crime fighter” in my job description which a tonne of girls ask about (I tell them I’m batman, and they have to promise not to tell anyone). My bio is also really cheeky with the hair pulling thing.
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Legend. Is this all for threesomes, what’s a homies path to victory when ur main girl isn’t BI
In that case just use my Tinder guide: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide
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Hey Andy,
I think somewhere you linked to another site that had a BDSM 101 guide, but now I can’t find it anywhere… can you share that here?
What do you talk about on the actual date? Is it all sex talk or do you start with normal get-to-know-you topics?
I’ll make it clear I don’t have really long dates – it’s usually just meet, grab a coffee/bottle of wine and take it back to my place for sex. So the ‘date’ part is only like 20 min.
I don’t really talk about sex much during the date (when we’re out in public) – maybe only with like 1 in 5 girls. The rest of the time I just talk about her job/university studies, the weather, whatever the hell I feel like that day. This probably answers your question better:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-4/#23-what-to-talk-about
and:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-4/#25-should-i-talk-about-sex
and:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-4/#24-im-bad-at-conversation
-Andy
Does Tinder give you an effective boost each time you change up your photos?
Not that I’m aware of (though you will start getting more matches if your new pics are a significant upgrade of course). You only get a “boost” when you delete and remake your account, or use the actual boosts.
Hey man, so I took your advice about using a BDSM picture as the first pic, and the “lines” you copy-paste. And its working great! But one issue, a lot of the girls I am matching with are 18-20(I am 23), which is too young to drink alcohol in america. What would you suggest as an alternate to “lets grab a drink some time”? Because a lot of girls just give me shit for asking to get a drink and saying they are too young, and then stop replying.
Don’t stress, mate. Just grab a coffee. Half of my lays have been daytime coffee dates – I often just drink water.
I’ll update the guide in the next few days to add this in. I forget Americans can’t drink til 21 (it’s 18 in most other countries).
-Andy
I have BDSM experience, but only a couple options for photos (that I’m permitted to use). Would you recommend hiring a fetish photographer and a model to make some cool photos, partly as a hobby to show off rope and other skills?
It’s your money (and your life) man, I don’t want to tell you what to do. If you think it’ll be fun (I love shooting and being in photoshoots), then why not?
If you’re asking me if it’ll help you get laid more (and more efficiently) on Tinder, then it absolutely will (providing you look good + message a tonne of girls). Expect way more rejections up front (because BDSM is so polarising), but the girls who do want to meet you, will make it VERY easy to have sex with. I don’t have dates – it’s “Let’s meet in public and walk back to my apartment together.”
I’m working on an in-depth Tinder guide and a BDSM guide that’ll be out in 2020.
-Andy
Which programme would you recommend to make photos better looking (like filters for skin/undereye bags etc) ?
Photoshop. Don’t fuck around with any other software, especially not “filter” programs – they all suck ass and make you look like a weird doll/robot.
Photoshop is like $10/month if you get the lightroom/photoshop “Photography Bundle” from Adobe.
Anything you want to do, “Phlearn” has a video about. Just google “Phlearn [what you’re trying to do]”. Eg here’s how to fix bags under eyes:
https://www.google.com/search?client=ms-android-xiaomi-rev1&sxsrf=ACYBGNTti60NgW5C1IWpr2kv8nTTdRit6A%3A1567976435452&ei=82t1XbOdG5n_9QP5t4TwAw&q=youtube+phlearn+bsgs+eyes&oq=youtube+phlearn+bsgs+eyes&gs_l=mobile-gws-wiz-serp.3..33i21j33i160l3.16500.18197..18339…0.0..0.423.3011.2-7j3j1……0….1………0j0i30j0i8i30j0i22i30j0i22i10i30j33i10i160.YHx-Wkys2p4
I also offer affordable Photoshopping for your pics. I’m a professional Photoshop Manipulator and photographer by trade. I’ve got examples of my Photoshopping for Tinder pics here:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/photo-editing/
-Andy
How do you make a new account, they keep asking for my number which is linked to the banned account
You’ll need to get a new number.
This is brilliant. Thanks for posting all this stuff. This is the most comprehensive strategy guide to Tinder I’ve ever seen on the internet, beating anything I’ve seen on Reddit or products sold by PUAs. You don’t have to share these things, but you do (most men won’t taje action anyway).
Thanks!
Thanks mate.
Still waiting on this 🙂 ——–
“In a separate article, I’ll go into more detail about how I get matches, as well as how many girls reply to my messages, how many ignore/unmatch me, etc.”
I know. I’m the king of starting articles and only half-finishing them. I have 87 drafts in my folder… That’s 87 half-written articles lol.
I’ll finish them all _eventually_.
Is there something in particular you want to know?
Out of a 100 matches, how many is a laid?
About 1 in every 50 matches, roughly. BUT…
The number of lays per matches doesn’t matter – all that matters is how many times you get laid and if you have fun doing it. I’m in the middle of an article right now called “It’s Not a Stats Game, it’s a Number’s Game”. How ‘efficient’ you are (how many lays you get per 100 matches) doesn’t really matter – there’s infinite girls out there, so even if you’re crap at it and get rejected a lot, you can just keep talking to more girls. Even if you “waste” 100 matches and don’t get laid once, there’s 100 more girls you’ll match with in the future.
You’ll never run out of girls to talk to, I promise.
Also remember there’s so many factors that go into “how many lays per 100 matches”. If I have low standards and bang lots of fat chicks, I could bang 1 in 10 matches (if I only match with chubby girls). If I’m really fussy and only go for the super hot girls, I’d probably only get laid 1 in every 1,000 matches. If I screen really hard (which I do – my first message to girls is “Are you into BDSM?”) I’ll get laid less out of every 100 matches (but much quicker – I get laid on the first date, every single time, because I’m screening so hard).
So essentially, don’t worry so much about how many lays per 100 matches. If you haven’t banged a whole lot of girls, then just do everything you can to bang every single girl you can, and talk to as many girls as you can. Don’t worry about efficiency.
I used the bdsm photo and got my account banned lol
Which country are you from? Im guessing Argentina?
Some people have reported the BDSM pic gets their account banned. I’ve never had an issue (I’m in Australia). I’ve edited the article to mention being careful if using the BDSM pic.
My account has been banned several times from this pic now too. Either don’t use the pic.
Hey Andy any apps you use to get a new number ? My account was banned as well and tried Google voice but that didn’t work
Just buy a new sim card.
Hi Andi, Cilindric here.
I’ve searched through your website, but have you any specific advise about Instagram?
I am not using Tinder anymore, because of two reasons
– It seems I have to buy boosts all the time
-I am only getting women of a certain age range there. Not the age range I desire
For me Instagram could serve as
-tool for daygame (girl is more comfortable with giving ig instead of number); cool profile with good pictures = better chances of an interaction
-as online dating tool itself
Your advise about pictures applies for ig as well of course.
But technically interactions are different from Tinder, and there are probably some traps I would guess.
There seem also be much scam ob ig like buying followers etc.
Would be interested in your opinion or even an article about that subject-matter.
Thanks
Hey mate!
I don’t have much advice for Instagram. My own insta only has 3500 followers, only because of my photography. I’ve never used Instagram to get laid – but I have given it out to a few girls instead of a number. (Only 3 of which I ended up banging – out of probably 100 or so girls I gave my insta to over the years).
My advice would be if you don’t have good pics on your insta, it’s a waste of time to build up a portfolio and followers if you are ONLY doing it to get laid. Most girls who say “I’m not giving you my number, but you can have my insta” aren’t all that serious about meeting up.
If she’s serious, she’ll give you her number. Otherwise she’s likely wasting your time. Not always, but 95% of the time.
As for using it as a dating tool – I went on a big spree a few years ago and messaged 200 girls. Only a few replied. I banged zero.
Your mileage may vary.